Itsjustme55 Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Hi everyone this is the first time I post. I was dating a GREAT guy for the past 2 years. The sad part is that this is all he wanted. When we first started dating we agreed we didnt want anything serious. Meaning a relationship and so forth. At the time I was single for 3 years and wasnt up to par with a serious relationship, not giving it thought that I might fall in love with this guy. At the beginning things were great he took me to dinner, movies great intimacy the whole nine. We went from that to just hanging out at my house drinking and renting a movie and staying in. At first I didnt mention anything I figured he just wanted to be alone with me. Well it went this way for several months and it got to the point were it was just a movie no drink and then sex and he will go home. I mentioned to him a good 6 months ago that I was falling in love with him and that if he didnt feel the same to just let me know before things got deep. We went from great conversations on the phone to intimate moments in my bed after a great rental to hardly speaking hardly emailing hardly anything. Weeks will go by and he wouldnt even answer my emails and so forth. So whenever that happened I would say "thats it its over, I cant take this anymore" and some how he would manage to make it all better and in his arms I would end up again. I felt pretty stupid saying something I didnt mean but I thought it would show him that he is on the verge of losing me if he doesnt show more commintment. Well to make a long story short 3 wks ago I graduated school and he didnt even call me or anything. I was angry and at 11pm (giving him time to make it up some how) I texted him and said thanks for remembering my 'special day' he tried calling but I shut my phone off. Excuses I was just so tired of hearing them. SO the next mroning via email he apologized and his excuse 'he was busy' ouch . I wish I would of not even asked. Anyways I told him I no longer want to date him (for the 6th time) and to please just let me be. Well he didnt email, back or call or anything. SO I thought I was doing fine. I can see it in my brain I was just going to move on with my life. until this last Saturday come to find out through a friend that he is already dating. OUCH!! My heart broke!!! Here for the past 3 wks I was doing just fine. That night that I found out I became and insomaniac. I cant sleep and I feel so SAD!!! I am questioniong myself. I cant understand why hearing about him with some one else has me so LOST!!! I honestly thought I was over him!! Any suggestions or advice? thanks
Ty Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 We went from great conversations on the phone to intimate moments in my bed after a great rental to hardly speaking hardly emailing hardly anything. Weeks will go by and he wouldnt even answer my emails and so forth. There's your red flag. And... you probably don't want to hear this but he was probably seeing someone all along. Look, if he doesn't care about you enough to remember something as important as your graduation, then he isn't worth your time anyway. I know its easier said than done, but you need to move on. Do not contact him, spend more time with friends, keep yourself busy. When you find someone, and you will, that really appreciates you, you'll look back on this and say what in the hell was I doing with that guy?
iwanttolive Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Like what ty said, it's easier said than done... but you don't deserve his sh*ts... Honestly, I'm angry for you, maybe because my ex used to treat me like i'm one of his 'activities'. I was no different from his set of PC games, his DVDs, his job, his buddy. Do you want to settle for this? If not, you made the right decision. Now that you have graduated, you can create the life the way you want it. If you feel ur self-esteem is crushed, go out and socialise and even date!
Author Itsjustme55 Posted November 28, 2007 Author Posted November 28, 2007 Yeah I am crushed all right..thank you for your advice peeps..I decided I will socialize more and hang out with friends to keep my mind of him. Its funny cause after I typed my story I realized there were enough red flags in my story than I wanted to acknowledge. Love is crazy. I am hurt but I will look on the positive aside atleast I am not 5 yrs down the road of dating him and not getting the point...LMAO!!! thanks again
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