Love2share Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I don't have any friends. I mean, there are people I've known since childhood who live far a way from me. Occasionally we email and call each other just to touch base. In high school, I only had two or three best friends but the relationships ended badly after some type of betrayal. Now in adulthood, I find the same thing happening. Over the past 10 years, I've made and lost several friends. One friend slept with my boyfriend in college. Another friend moved to another country (back home to where she was from). In my heart, I still love her and I know we are friends for life. But she isn't really here with me. I've had the worst luck keeping friends. Over the past year, I have been friends with a guy whom I trusted with my life. There is nothing I wouldn't do for him. However, I discovered that he has been lying to me about several aspects of himself. Starting with his age. There are several other things about him that disappointed, and sometimes hurt me. But I've tried to overlook all those things because I wanted to keep his friendship. Something happened yesturday that I don't want to share, but it was really bad. He did something that I don't think I can forgive. I want to end the friendship with him. But ending it will be just like all the others. I end up starting all over again. I wonder if there is a secret to having and keeping friends. Since I've never kept a friend longer than a year of two, I'd like to hear from people who have maintained successful friendships for lifetimes. Or is lifetime friendship a possible thing?
sb129 Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Yes, I think lifetime friendship is possible. It can be hard to maintain certain levels of friendship all the time, for example I have childhood friends who I still see, but we can go for months or even years without seeing eachother, and then just pick up where we left off last time. Maintaining a friendship requires effort from both parties- I have a few friends who are quite frankly USELESS at keeping in contact/ have blown me off a few too many times etc, and I am tired of being the only one who puts in any effort. What interests do you have? Have you thought about joining a club/ group doing things that you enjoy? Its a good way to meet people, and you instantly have a common bond. Don't just forgive your "friend" because you don't want to lose his friendship. A true friend would apologise and if he isn't going to do that, then he isn't worthy of the great friendship you have clearly given him. A whole big circle of superficial "friends" isn't worth as much as one or two true friends.
Ruthieo01 Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I agree, don't just keep the friendship going because you don't have any other friends. That is only going to open the door for you to continue to get hurt! I know friend are few and far between. My bestfriend is me sister and we didn't really get close till after she was married.
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