London Girl Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 A guy I've dating for 5 weeks broke up with saying he realised he is not ready for a relationship. He was besotted by me, did all the chasing and I did not pressure him at all. Infact on our first and second dates I told him I was wary as he has only been single for 5 months but he said he was over his ex during the relationship with her. Do you think by giving him this space he might come back to me? He did say that he would like to stay in touch by email. I just don't understand him, one minute he is all over me, affectionate etc and the next he's backing off.
josh200536 Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Sometimes giving space helps sometimes it doesn't. It's hard to think about things like this. Maybe he really wasn't ready.. I mean it's better to say he wasn't ready for a relationship now then it would of been 3 yrs down the road. Good Luck!
Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Good Luck! I was in a similar situation only the relationship lasted 4 months and then BAM he didn't want anything to do with a relationship. Give him time I don't think he knows what he wants.
LoveLace Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I just went through this too, he did all the chasing and there were several talks in the beginning about his recent divorce and pressure...but ooohh nooo he was over it, etc; but overnight just like that, he ran. Keeping in touch by email is basically saying he just wants to be friends, and not the frequent kind. Space may or may not bring him back but usually once they run for it, they mean it...sometimes people just don't realize what they are getting into, then they wake up and think OMG, what am I doing? It's nothing you did.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 God his name doesn't begin with L does it!! Keep your guard up as you do not want to be messed around. Keeping in touch by email, what is the point in that?? So if he decides he wants another 5wks of fun he can just email you and let you know?? If he was the one to come on strong and is now backing off, then clearly there is some issues there. Also dumping someone right before there birthday, not very nice and certainly shows their selfish side in my opinion.
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