Woggle Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 The child is not a dealbreaker but a certain red flag. Most likely it is because she made a mistake with some scumbag who might have turned her bitter against men and you will have to deal with that baggage. Either that or she didn't put much thought into the father which shows that she views men as disposable extras in the family and you don't want a woman that views your gender in that way.
Author MarkWA65 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 I caught Nick this morning in the hallway and asked him if he is dating Cara and he assured me they are just friends. He asked me why I wanted to know and I told him I am interested in her and that after seeing the two of them yesterday I thought my shot with her was gone because I just can't compete with him for women. And he told me he thinks I certainly could. I am not sure I believe him 100% but this has put me at ease and now I can decide how best to approach Cara. And maybee I'll get some sleep tonite. --MJ
Author MarkWA65 Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 Well its been an interesting two days since talking with Nick ... either he told her i'm interested in her or she read a post that I made on one of the several relationship forums that I have made about it. Her body language and signals have definately changed and most definately feel negative. She always looks at people when they speak in the meetings were in together and the past two days she has looked at everyone else when they talk except me. And today she stood with her arms folded, angled away from me, and didn't look at me once.... This doesn't mean I won't talk with her about this soon but it really made me feel down and depressed the past few days. .... I am much more calm again this evening after bumping into Nick in the bathroom today and having a great talk with him. --MJ
Author MarkWA65 Posted December 14, 2007 Author Posted December 14, 2007 I am going to wait till after we return from our holiday break at work before speaking with her about any of this ... Who knows maybee a few weeks of not seeing her every day will put things into better perspective for me. --MJ p.s. Cara if you did find out thru this thread and are reading this ... I am sorry I didn't have the courage to tell you in person.
Author MarkWA65 Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 Well she confronted me today and told me she isn't interested in me but wants to remain friends... I let her know that I would very much like to not loose our friendship over this and that if she every changes her mind that she can feel free to come talk to me about it. Oh well... --MJ
LoveLace Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 I'd say you handled that well MJ. Sorry she isn't interested but if anything a good friendship could come out of it. In the meantime, get out and do things where you'll possibly meet new women, and instead of waiting...ask them out as soon as your interested! Don't let any declination get you down, be yourself, have fun, and you will find something special.
Author MarkWA65 Posted December 26, 2007 Author Posted December 26, 2007 (edited) I wanted to stop by and tell everyone how I'm doing ... and to be honest I am doing just fine ... whoever told her did me a big favor ... my xmas break has been calm and relaxing and although I didn't get what I wanted for xmas I got something far better "peace of mind" ... It is probably for the best ... Thank you all so much for your support --MJ Edited December 26, 2007 by MarkWA65
desertguy Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Mark, it didn't work out, but you got your feet wet again anyway, congratulations on that! It wasn't the outcome you wanted, but chalk it in the win column anyway, a small step but a very important one. Try to look at it as a learning experience. Keep up the self improvement, keep working on YOU, and try to keep your attitude positive like you are doing. That's HUGE. And also don't be afraid to ask someone out when you have the inclination early on, it's scary as hell I know, and I still have problems with that sometimes , but you'll know right away where you stand instead of tying yourself in knots. But it sounds like you already see that, the sense of relief you felt when you found out, which is good. If you can keep the right attitude, you'll gradually gain more and more confidence in the process. Good luck!
cutegirl Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 LoveGod, What's your opinion on women who are single mothers but make a lot money, perhaps even has a net worth in the millions? Would that change your mind or would you still think she's irresponsible just because the child wouldn't have a stable father figure.
Author MarkWA65 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 Desert, the weight continues to drop and I have really been calm and content the past several days ... like I said it was probably for the best --MJ
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