Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Well went on a date this weekend..no sparks nothing. Nice guy but of course I compare him to my ex- ugh!! So I happened to clean up my family room this weekend and find 3 of my exes dvd's so dumbie me e-mails him to ask if he wants them and I'll mail them if he wants them. I sent it to the email that I thought he rarely checked surprise! he checked it and wrote back saying he's not too concerned but what movies were they.. I thought about sending a text to ask him the ? but didn't want to torment myself by waiting for a reply. I really thought he didn't check this email as often. Now I wish I would have just kept my mouth shut and not said anything- won't do me any good. Has anyone else let the impulse of contacting the ex get the best of them?? We've been about 8 weeks NC haha..opps.
Summer_guy_uk Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Perhaps you wanted to contact him and saw this as a good oppurtunity? If you really just want to carry on with your life, just post them/drop them through the letterbox.
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I'm going to laugh with you. Come on, admit it, it was intentional. He's playing along, asking the name of the DVDs. You decide if you want to play along or not.
Author Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 Oh you know it was intentional in my part.. playing along though? explain? you think he's playing along..
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 If he didn't want to keep up communications with you, he would either have ignored your email or told you to send them. What did he do instead? It doesn't mean he wants to get back but there's probably a component of missing you.
Author Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 He's just being polite I believe.. This was the response no dont worry about it.....i have an empty queue so i will just make new copies..... hope you and your family have a nice holiday season though....hope the job is going well....thanks for the offer
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I'm confused. I don't see reference to asking which DVDs they are.
Author Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 He burns them..illegally lol..he said just keep them he will burn new ones. He asked which ones- I told him and that was his response.
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 His response will be driven by your response. If you communicate with him again and want to draw out the conversation, you will have to include some leading questions or information that he can piggyback off of, to extend the length of the conversation. Okay?
Author Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 I'm so retarded this is really not work the effort. I did respond telling him about a project my students are doing at school and that he should watch the paper for it. If you need background info on our situation it can be found here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t131509/
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Ah, got it. He's an early investor. They tend to be high risk candidates for dining and dashing.
Author Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 Lol..what? So what is that suppose to tell me? Previously he wasn't as his 2 past relationships were 2-3 years.
Author Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 Reasoning behind that last comment....?? His past relationships were relatively long
Trialbyfire Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Not all but some early investors idealize the relationship, then get frightened when reality hits them. There maybe self-esteem, self-worth issues involved too: "She's angry with me, I'll never be able to make her happy." So they run.
Author Teach28 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 Oh there were definitely self-esteem issues with him.
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