alwayzlovinyou88 Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 well...i met this guy about a year ago. he was rather shy and mysterious...and then when i came around and was my outgoing self he began to talk to me a lot and really teasing me (in a good way). we flirted a lot...he told me that i wasn't like other girls...usually the girls he talks to get mad at his jokes or his teasing...pretty much he thought that i was down to earth and fun. then i found out from a friend that he had bought an ex-girlfriend a christmas gift...a girl he was with for about two years or so. it didn't bug me too much because we weren't dating...he ended up telling me about it anyways. we talked a lot and we were so comfortable with each other...it was like we had known each other forever. so..we hung out and we hooked up but only to the extent of making out and then after that things didn't go so well between us. he would call me consecutively and then not and then call me again like a couple of weeks later (like a month) and then stop and then do the same thing over and over. oh yea, we would talk about hanging out and he kept flaking! and so i finally asked him what his deal was and he said that it would be best if we talked more to try to get to know each other better and see what would happen from there. things seemed to be looking up for us and it felt so good and then he did the same thing again, calling me consecutively and then stop for a while and then call me again. it's hard for me to stay mad at him...we got really close, he use to tell me personal things when he called me. i just don't know anymore....he keeps flaking on hanging out...he knows it makes me mad yet he keeps doing it. i yelled at him...and for some reason i think he liked it when i yelled at him lol. i think he likes how i'm fiesty? ;D i don't know...but yea...i can't tell if he likes me or not. he knows i like him because i told him before. we hung out again and he flirted with me and kept kissing me and acted sad when i ignored him and kept hugging me and staring at me and then he snubbed me later in the night, totally ignoring me. and then i found out that he had a girlfriend...his ex was back in the picture. i asked him about her way before and he told me they stopped talking...but i guess they started talking again? this went on for about nine months and we ended up having a really bad falling out and i don't know if he's going to come back...if he's going to call me again like he use to. i want to hear his voice so bad...i miss him so much and care about him more than words can say. its been more than two months since we last talked...so yea...this is my story. did this guy have any feelings for me at all? he talked about me to his friends, telling them i'm funny and exiting and how he hella loved my personality. i just don't get it...was i just a joke? was i a rebound? how come he kept coming back?? were we "just friends" or was there more to it?? please someone give me answers! side note: this guy is gorgeous and he knows he is and a lot of girls like him! i must admit our egos clashed a lot =(
Author alwayzlovinyou88 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 another side note...we talked on and off for about nine months and then had the bad falling out and then i found out about the girlfriend from a friend...but i'm not sure it was a reliable source. someone tell me what to do? i can say i truly adore this guy...
Poboy Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 well , if he was interested he would have acted on it and asked you out and dated you. either he has some issues or he might not be interested in a relationship... maybe just hooking up or sex. if he is good looking and has lot of girls around , then he might be just having fun. who knows. don't run after this guy. let him contact you if he is interested. if he doesn't , move on . you deserve better, someone who will be there rather than flaking out like him.
SuperFantastico Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 He was playing you. Perhaps he liked you at first but you let him get away with too much so he lost respect. Respect is VERY important. NEVER let someone flake on you, and this goes for guys and girls. It basicaly makes you a doormat, which is what happened to you here. Ditch him. Period. P.S. Please use paragraphs and sentences next time. Its VERY difficult to read though otherwise.
SuperFantastico Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 P.S.S. DITCH HIM PERIOD. Dont let him chase you. Dont let him do anything. Hes garbage. Move on. I know we all like challenges. But in this one, even if you win you lose. Get it?
Author alwayzlovinyou88 Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 Thanks Poboy and SuperFantastico! you guys are right. i think the problem with me was that i kept telling myself he was a good guy and that there was more to him...something kept telling me he had his guard up and so i thought if i waited it out maybe, just maybe he would eventually let me in. i want to get over him but i find it hard to and the sad thing is, i think if he came back into my life...if he called me again i would forgive him for everything he did. i don't know why, but i'm not even mad at him at all. is that weird?? someone please tell me that's normal right?? haha honestly, what i want right now is for him to be happy and each day that i don't hear from him i worry. everyone keeps telling me he's fine and that i shouldn't even think about him because he probably isn't thinking about me but it doesn't stop me from praying and hoping he's doing well and that everything is working out for him. so yea...i'll try my best to let him go...even though its taking rather LONG! lol i just miss him very much. oh goodness...i don't know when i'll ever get over him. oh yea! by the way one of his close friends likes me and is trying to date me even though he knows i love his friend. would it be wrong to pursue this??? you can't date the best friend of a guy you use to have a thing with huh?? hahah ohmy i think i need answers again
LoveLace Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 OOohh boy...is his name Drew by any chance? ha ha...actually I've posted about him AKA "Dan"...the call-a-lot then don't call-at-all guy. I'm convinced, 1st of all, that guy's calling patterns are analyzed way too much (I'm guilty) and used way too much as a determinant to weather or not he's "interested". The fact is, I don't think any guy has an assuring pattern of calling from any point of view. They call when they want to, and that's it. When they are not calling they could still be thinking about us...right? Anyhoo, if the guy bought a XMAS gift for the Ex, I think that's an obvious sign that he isn't really over it or he was trying to get her back (and was apparently successful). I believe he's liked you a lot but I'm afraid you've basically just been a space-filler all along. Your the back-up while he and the Ex aren't speaking or on the rocks or whatever. If they break up again he'll start calling you more, etc, but he won't tell you that or your role in the situation becomes obvious.
Author alwayzlovinyou88 Posted December 4, 2007 Author Posted December 4, 2007 thats kinda mean that i was a "space filler". i mean i know it's my fault for putting up with him for so long but at the same time i think its mean to mess with another person's feelings when you know exactly how deep they are for you. maybe he liked me maybe he didn't? i think what i really want to know is whether i affected him or his life in any way rather than be this person that was just there to pass time... do you guys think that its possible for a person to lead another person on for several months (maybe even a year(s)) and not develop an emotional attachment? i'm curious to know what you guys think.
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