shayna Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Hey again I was just contemplating the chance of rebounds after long term relationships working out. My ex is most likely seeing a good friend of his now- after only 5 months of us breaking up from our 8.5 year relationship. What do you guys think? There was no cheating involved during the relationship- I know that. They were friends beforehand but she's 5 years younger (he's 30), she's very up in the air about what she'll do when her work visa here runs out...and he swears nothing is going on between them (even though they had slept together 3.5 months after we split). I'm hurt and jealous- thought I meant much more to him. Thought- or more likely hoped- he would have a terrible time moving on from me. Now I feel like total crap.
michael d Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 aloha. sorry to hear you are hurting, like me and so many others on here. first off, i have to say that 3 and 5 months is a pretty long time, and a reasonable time to move on, and start up with someone else. if he has done this, it is his choice and not one made too soon after your breakup. it's sad that your years together are over. but who knows about the future? you may end up together after all. but now is the time you need to focus on, not the uncertain future. the truth seems to be that he has found someone else, at least for now, and you must also move on. i know of people getting back together after long times apart, but you can't just wait. that won't work. so you need get comfortable with yourself and be happy again!! with this outlook you will make the transition and good things will come your way. see ya and hang in there. mike d
Ocean-Blue Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 Hey again I was just contemplating the chance of rebounds after long term relationships working out. My ex is most likely seeing a good friend of his now- after only 5 months of us breaking up from our 8.5 year relationship. What do you guys think? There was no cheating involved during the relationship- I know that. They were friends beforehand but she's 5 years younger (he's 30), she's very up in the air about what she'll do when her work visa here runs out...and he swears nothing is going on between them (even though they had slept together 3.5 months after we split). I'm hurt and jealous- thought I meant much more to him. Thought- or more likely hoped- he would have a terrible time moving on from me. Now I feel like total crap. Hugs to you shayna. It can't be easy knowing that he's moved on so quickly...but it happens more often than you think. And sometimes...rebounds DO work out. Sometimes they don't. Worrying yourself sick over the "probability" of them making it isn't going to do you any good. Focus on yourself and your own future. He left you and jumped into something very quickly - surely that tells you that he wasn't worth holding on to. Do yourself a favour and TRY not to think about them. Don't allow yourself to wonder...it does you no good.
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