Crestfallen_KH Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I understand where you are coming from. When my husband began his emotional affair, I didn't want to believe it. This was the man that I had loved, that I had never treated badly, never cheated on or never though him anything less than honorable. We used to joke that he was a horrible liar (and he really is) but even though I knew something more serious was going on with her, I really did - on one level - believe he "just wanted to be single." I feel so foolish now, but all I was doing at the time was believing my HUSBAND - and man who had never given me any reason NOT to trust him in the past - ever. It's logical to want to continue to believe, to want to continue to see your partner as you always have. But you have to see her differently now. She IS different now. She has likely (as reboot has stated) even convinced HERSELF she is telling the truth. Even liars can pass polygraph tests as long as THEY believe they are telling the truth. Take it from someone who was cheated on - she's doing it.
mattym Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Isn't that the same thing with you and your OW? Yes, it's EXACTLY the same thing, thats how i know this is what's happening My mess is still there, just trying to stop gullible falling into the same hole
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