eva74 Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Hello everyone, this is my first post, I read quite a few of the older posts here on dealing with the narcisstic partners and found them really helpful. My story is long and complicated, so to cut it short, my ex - most prob. commitmentphobic with narcisstic traits - anyway, I let him go almost 2 years ago, he came back several times, I would only let him back as a friend but it has become very intense since he started to go out with a new girlfriend - he attempted suicide and got himself into other sorts of trouble - she was NEVER there for him - I was, but he ALWAYS comes back to her. I tried not to but I got attached to him again, my heart breaks each time he turns his back on me after I help him back on his feet and gets back with her. I cut him out again for my sake. Well, to my main question. From what I see I am quite certain that his girlfriend is a narcisst. When he messaged me that she broke up with him again, in a very cruel way, and that he knows it was a mistake he ever let me go, that he loves me, shoudl marry me, blah blah blah - I emailed him some stuff to read about abandoners and narcissm, so he could stop taking all the blame - and he agreed that she must be a narcisst -but instead letting her go -HE WENT BACK TO HER AGAIN, he even thanked me for telling him all this stuff 'cos now he knows the problem, he can forgive her and can deal with it! aarrghhhh!! Now, I know this is his problem, and that I should stay away from him and not want him back Still, I am wondering, since I did not want him to go back to the monster girl, was it a mistake to tell him she's not just plain mean, she has a mental problem? Will they work it out? I just feel stupid now... Sorry it's so long. Please, anyone has any advice? thanks! eva
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