starlite Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Well, I decided to send that letter. Background...ex and I broke up after being together 2.5 years. A month after I found out he cheated on me a few times and he is sleeping with his best friends ex etc. So! A few days later I wrote a letter to him, I didnt send it. I sat on it for a while and it was eating at me not to tell him what I think of him (because although it sounds nieve, i know he cares about how i feel). So, i revised it...got rid of all profanity, took out anything regarding his new 'fling', and made it really mature and to the point. I sent in Wednesday. I have NO regrets in sending this letter. I needed to get that all out to him. Yesterday (Sunday) I receieved 2 texts from him. One asking if I am willing to talk, he wants to explaing things, and asking if he can call me. The second asking if I am ignoring him, telling me he will always love me, how much he regrets what he did, that it only happend once and his friend was lying, I was the greatest person he ever had in his life and to please call him. I ignored both texts and have no plans on ever contacting him again. I am glad that this letter was the way it was. Anyone in the world can read it and I wouldnt feel the least bit embarassed. So...it was a good decision for me. Main thing is not contacting him again. It was one final letter and that is what it has to be left at. I'm ok with that. ( i didnt expect a response in the 1st place). Thanks for all your help guys! (and girls!)
stepheine Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Starlite, I dated the guy I was seeing for only 5 months. We have been broken up for a week. the only explanation I got for the breakup was that he lost his job needed to fix his life and had no time for a gf. I was heart broken. He told me he would call me when he was ready. I got no closure at all!! I thought about sending a letter but I have mixed feelings everyone tells me not to. I am so glad you got this response from yours. You deserve it after being so hurt!!!
niceirishfella Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 You know Starlite - I admire you. You are a strong person and if it gets closure for you sending that letter - then good for you. If its upsets or annoys your ex - so be it, its his loss. congrats and every best wish to you. NIF.
Jade 02 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Hi Hun well you sent the letter,and lets see what comes of it. Dont forget to hold your head up high
bustertypsy Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Hey Starlight,it sounds to me that you did not send this letter to get back together,but more to express your feelings,in order for you to move on.It's a terrible pity that we are not all like you.To truly express our feelings,with no regrets,no games,well that's the way I do things too.It sure takes a lot of weight off your mind to walk away from a relationship,with all feelings laid on the table.Sure,you'll never look back with regrets,now that's good.You can then go into NC,good luck to you!!
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