Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 hey Well I Have Posted Many Threads In Loveshack And Alot Really Help But This Is A Very Important One Where I Really Would Love It If You Gave All The Advice And Knoledge You Guys Have On This Subject. My Bf And I Have Been Dating For A Little More Than 1 Year, This Has Been My Longest Relationship, And I Guess Because Its Getting Serious And We Are So Used To Each Other And More Into Each Others Businesses We Have Been Fighting And I Guess Its Moslty Me Because I Am So Jealous I Have Never Been So Jealous Before Like This..its So Stressing...well My Bf Told Mi That He Wanted A Break That He Wanted Time And Space For Himself So We Have Agreed That He Was Going To Take 3 Weeks Or Less Without Me. I Have Never Been In A "break" Before And I Tell Him That I Dont Believe In Them And That He Will Probably Forget About Me..he Tells Me To Trust Him And To Stop Asking Him 21 Questions About Us Whenever He Talks To Me Because It Stresses Him Out And That Hes Going To Come Back But I Have To Trust Him..he Even Said He Was Growing White Hairs Lol..i Told Him I Would Pick Them For Him Haha... Well I Really Need Your Help I Have Never Been With Someone For This Long And Have Never Been Through The Things I Have Been With Him With Anyone Else....i Have Never Been On A Break So I Dont Know How To Act Or Say..i Know That I Should Work On Lowering My Jealousy Level And Work On My Trust Issues But How Do I Deal With This Break??? Please Help Me!!!
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 sumone please answer me and help me i really need the advice....please....thank you!
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 Come On People...i Need Your Help Dont You ****ing See That Man.. Thats ****ed Up You Cant Even Say Get On With Your Life Or..stop Asking A Question Only You Can Answer.. Something Mean Or Nice Wateva Say Something Damn!! I Thought This Was A Place To Get Advice.. But Damn I C.. ..it Isnt Even A Long Thread Its Short And You Can Understand It...
Summer_guy_uk Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Theres not many people on atm chick, wait until everyone gets back from work My advice? Don't contact him and try and get on and enjoy your life best you can. If he wants you back then not having you around, not hearing your voice and not knowing what your doing will help him remember his feelings for you. I hope that helps! Just don't go around trying to get on with your life kissing random boys or anything!
tomwiz Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Breaks are almost always a prelude to a breakup. You either want to be with someone or you don't. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news however thats usually the way it is. I can understand taking a break for a stressful situation (bar exams, etc), but over a personality conflict....not a good idea. I'd just try to move on to a certain degree...he's pulling away and it won't be long.
kitkat289 Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 ya my ex also wanted such thing and then slowly he dropped the bomb that we should break-up.For 8months we had broken up umpteen times and he was the one who would promise to make an effort sincerely and would be very honest with me but I had started to see the changes in him.Like I realised that there were some small things that he could not do for me.I talked to some friends and came to know that they could do such things if their gf asked them.So that was it....I realised he was changing and pulling away and though he always wanted me to trust him, I was the one who was crying in the end since he felt he was done with all those break-up and patch-up cycles and I still kept on hoping.Now all I feel is that we are emotionally on the same level as before but he's not ready to commit.But breaks are for good, they make us independent and one should utilise that phase to love themselves more and to stop depending on you bf/gf for your happiness.Keep working on yourself, all the best
Msblueyes Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 I've been with my boyfriend over 8 years. We are currently on a break as well, but still talking. I've never done this before either! He wanted to move out & see if he could live on his own...couldn't wait...and now, living with a friend who's wanted (good move), friend just got his car repo'd, now is paying me to drive them to work...calls me his xgirlfriend/girlfriend. Not happy with his job but can't really quit because he's not living with me & has no one to "carry" his ass...lol! He moved out Oct. 19th and is still flat broke. Has no car. Oh, I could go on. I feel the best thing is, to let them miss you. From there, I have no answers. I think mine just needs to see what it is to be on his own....as for me, I'm not looking to date as I still care for him. Just trying to improve my self/attitude in the meantime.
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 yeah i feel really deppressed right now i even lost weight because ever since the problems began and the break i havent really ate much because im sad all the time although i try to hide and act like im happy when i get to school and hes around during lunch...i am not planning on seeing anyone because i made a promise to him and on top of that i just cant be with no one else..i love him, i care for him alot and miss him like shyt...if he comes back hopefully i will do the opposite of what i was doing when i was with him...not being so jealous...trusting him....not getting mad for no reason(especially when im on my pd..lol)...but i just hope i get that chance...his brother told me that he had problems and he gets mad for no reason...i wish i could talk to him.. but i just want him to not be so stressed out... yesterday i wrote him a letter to just tell him that i missed him and that i still loved him alot...i was going to either give it to his friend to give it to him or sneak it in his back pack but i chickened out so i ripped the letter....today i didnt even look at him...i was happy and jumpy and laughing with my friends and ignored him completely..at the corner of my eye i could see him look at me pass by him..but at the end of the day i felt very sad.....his friend told me to not worry and to act like i dont care and that this break is not bothering me...he told me that he was going to come back because he knows he loves me and cares for me..he sed i needed to hop off his nutts lol...
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 well i have decided to update you guys on the things that are currently happening right now....well theres this girl that has been after my bf or ex bf...i found out a couple days ago that they have been talking on the phone she practically calls him and looks for him but this i found out from a friend of mine who is currently talking to my x bfs twin brother (the evil twin)...i dont know if to trust her because when she tells me something it changes after a while...well last night she told me that my x bfs brother told her that my x bf had came up to him and told him that he didnt think he was going to go back out with me..if he did say that he could have been mad that i was hagning out with his friends and brother when we agreed that i wasnt going to be with any guy while we were on a break and especially smoking with them..he was also high that day when he supposedly said that...i also act like i dont care about him and ignore him so he might think that were not getting back because i have moved on..or he might have found someone else and forgot about me and isnt planning to get back... this seems strange to me because my x bf doesnt tell his personal stuff to no one especially his brother..me and his brother used to hate each other we couldnt be near each other because we would get anoyed and ever since one time when i smoked with them and me and ma bf went on a break he started talking to me and he said that i was "cooler" now that i didnt go out with his brother and when i smoked (i dont even smoke like that i only tried it like 3 times)....and yesterday i acted like i didnt care about my ex and acted happy and jumpy and i didnt even look at him but i could tell he was from the corner of my eye...later on in the day i recieved these blocked calls from someone and i picked up some of them they didnt answer once i said hello they hung up and later i asked them questions and they would just press buttons....i know my bf used to call me blocked to check up on me or to just be funny but never admited it...i havent recieved blocked calls in a while until last night.. now why would i get them especially on the day where i totaly ignored my bf??????? im confused because someone here is lying or exagerating things......the girl that is after my bf: stutters when they ask her questions about her and my x bf talking on the phone, and changes stories everytime.....my x bfs brother: he likes me more now that i dont go out with his brother..he is a mean and sneaky guy and lies about alot of things...my friend: she is another jealous biitch..and she thinks my x bfs brother likes me because i dont go out with his brother anymore...her stories change everytime and sound like shes exagerating things...i dont know who is telling the truth or making this a bit more serious then they really are but i am not going to trust none of them...i am just going to wait for the 2 weeks the are left in our break to go by and if he doesnt show signs of comming back or even calling me to tel me were not getting back then i guess i will move on away from him...if not then i will be the oppositi of what i was when i was with him and NOT believe in other peoples words until i find out for myself.... WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK ABOUT ALL THIS???DO YOU SMELL BACKSTABBING LIARS????
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 well i have decided to update you guys on the things that are currently happening right now....well theres this girl that has been after my bf or ex bf...i found out a couple days ago that they have been talking on the phone she practically calls him and looks for him but this i found out from a friend of mine who is currently talking to my x bfs twin brother (the evil twin)...i dont know if to trust her because when she tells me something it changes after a while...well last night she told me that my x bfs brother told her that my x bf had came up to him and told him that he didnt think he was going to go back out with me..if he did say that he could have been mad that i was hagning out with his friends and brother when we agreed that i wasnt going to be with any guy while we were on a break and especially smoking with them..he was also high that day when he supposedly said that...i also act like i dont care about him and ignore him so he might think that were not getting back because i have moved on..or he might have found someone else and forgot about me and isnt planning to get back... this seems strange to me because my x bf doesnt tell his personal stuff to no one especially his brother..me and his brother used to hate each other we couldnt be near each other because we would get anoyed and ever since one time when i smoked with them and me and ma bf went on a break he started talking to me and he said that i was "cooler" now that i didnt go out with his brother and when i smoked (i dont even smoke like that i only tried it like 3 times)....and yesterday i acted like i didnt care about my ex and acted happy and jumpy and i didnt even look at him but i could tell he was from the corner of my eye...later on in the day i recieved these blocked calls from someone and i picked up some of them they didnt answer once i said hello they hung up and later i asked them questions and they would just press buttons....i know my bf used to call me blocked to check up on me or to just be funny but never admited it...i havent recieved blocked calls in a while until last night..well after i went to get soemthing to eat and i came back to my room and i saw a missed call minutes after the blocked call and it was from my x bfs younger sister..i dont talk to her on the phone so it seemed starnge that she called me so i called her to see what she wanted and no one picked up..then i sent her a text and said "hey you called me?wats up" and i never got a reply and den later on i got another blocked call but i wasnt near the phone..it was stangebut now why would i get them especially on the day where i totaly ignored my bf??????? im confused because someone here is lying or exagerating things......the girl that is after my bf: stutters when they ask her questions about her and my x bf talking on the phone, and changes stories everytime.....my x bfs brother: he likes me more now that i dont go out with his brother..he is a mean and sneaky guy and lies about alot of things...my friend: she is another jealous biitch..and she thinks my x bfs brother likes me because i dont go out with his brother anymore...her stories change everytime and sound like shes exagerating things...i dont know who is telling the truth or making this a bit more serious then they really are but i am not going to trust none of them...i am just going to wait for the 2 weeks the are left in our break to go by and if he doesnt show signs of comming back or even calling me to tel me were not getting back then i guess i will move on away from him...if not then i will be the oppositi of what i was when i was with him and NOT believe in other peoples words until i find out for myself.... WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK ABOUT ALL THIS???DO YOU SMELL BACKSTABBING LIARS????
WakeUpPeople Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Listen I agreed with everyone else on this matter, move on with your life, usually when some one gives u the I WANT A BREAK SPEECH, that means its over its the prequel to the squeal "BREAKING UP" your still young to find new love and be happy...CUT HIM OFF, NO EMAIL, NO TEXT, NO CALLS, NO NOTHING. Disappear of the face of this earth until you heal. Get busy with life and focus on whats important TO U...After you let months past and he realizes he lost u and wants u back and u decided weither you want him back or not will be left up to u..and if he doesnt come back then let it be, because by then ull be happy and have peace with yourself.
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