luckyinlove Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 My BF and I have been together just over a year now. We're both extremely devoted, we love eachother, and things seem to be going well for the most part. The thing is that we are together literally everyday for a majority of the day. Taking the same classes, and spending all of our free time together (we just went away to school and really don't have any friends other than eachother). Anyway, I'm fine with it but I'm just worried that eventually its going to take its toll on our relationship. Things are just getting kind of routine and boring now. We meet up at school, have lunch together, go back to class, work on homework, come back and watch tv or something, have sex (which is great, but when we're having it on a daily basis it gets a little predictable as well), go home to bed, and repeat. I love being with him and spending time with him but when we're together all the time nothing is ever exciting and we never have a chance to miss eachother. It's just not exciting to see eachother because it's just another normal day. We've also been arguing a little more lately (about stupid, petty things), and I think it might just be us getting irritated with not having time away. It almost reminds me of petty arguments I have with my parents or sister, just because I need my space! Should we try and spend more time away from eachother or is there something else I can do to make things a little more exciting? Like I said, I love spending time with him everyday, and I'm not bothered by the situation now, but I'm just worried its not so good for us. I want to feel missed again!
Pyro Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Everyone needs their space, otherwise they are bound to implode. I suggest that the both of you make some friends at school and start hanging out with them or start a hobby or something that would require the two of you to be apart. In my experience, EVERY couple that I have known that never had any time apart eventually grew tired of each other and things ended, mostly on a bad note or they are in the beginning stages of the downward spiral.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 My BF and I have been together just over a year now. We're both extremely devoted, we love eachother, and things seem to be going well for the most part. The thing is that we are together literally everyday for a majority of the day. Taking the same classes, and spending all of our free time together (we just went away to school and really don't have any friends other than eachother). Anyway, I'm fine with it but I'm just worried that eventually its going to take its toll on our relationship. Things are just getting kind of routine and boring now. We meet up at school, have lunch together, go back to class, work on homework, come back and watch tv or something, have sex (which is great, but when we're having it on a daily basis it gets a little predictable as well), go home to bed, and repeat. I love being with him and spending time with him but when we're together all the time nothing is ever exciting and we never have a chance to miss eachother. It's just not exciting to see eachother because it's just another normal day. We've also been arguing a little more lately (about stupid, petty things), and I think it might just be us getting irritated with not having time away. It almost reminds me of petty arguments I have with my parents or sister, just because I need my space! Should we try and spend more time away from eachother or is there something else I can do to make things a little more exciting? Like I said, I love spending time with him everyday, and I'm not bothered by the situation now, but I'm just worried its not so good for us. I want to feel missed again! I think spending some time part would do the both of you some good. Maybe you could join a class or get him to join one? Or perhaps you two could spend more time with your individual set of friends. Ditch him for your gfs once in a while...and encourage him to do the same.
maynicholas Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 There have been studies done showing that doing things that are physiologically arousing help to stimulate a relationship. So I say you guys should take a weekend and go do something you have never tried like hiking, skydiving, rock climbing (even an indoor one should work), or go to an amusement park (if any are still open). Who knows, maybe you will find a new hobby out of it!
Tony T Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 There is no such thing as a boring day, only boring people. Do you ever get bored breathing? If so, hold your breath for some excitement! Stop expecting life to be a big bowl of screaming excitement 24 hours a day. It's truly great sometimes just being able to sit with a nice book or TV program. The next time you feel bored, think about all the people who were blown to bits in Iraq in the last week. They would most likely give anything in the world to be a hundred times more bored than you could ever imagine yourself to be if only they could come back to life. Have a GREAT day!!!
Timberlane Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 There is no such thing as a boring day, only boring people. Indeed. Bored? Look to thy self and fix that first. All of us are capable to conversations that are introspective, varied, and presumably interesting. And that is the best past time there is.
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 There is no such thing as a boring day, only boring people. Do you ever get bored breathing? If so, hold your breath for some excitement! Stop expecting life to be a big bowl of screaming excitement 24 hours a day. It's truly great sometimes just being able to sit with a nice book or TV program. The next time you feel bored, think about all the people who were blown to bits in Iraq in the last week. They would most likely give anything in the world to be a hundred times more bored than you could ever imagine yourself to be if only they could come back to life. Have a GREAT day!!! You, sir... are truly inspirational....
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