adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Sup guys, Normally wouldn't be askin for help but it might be good to hear an outside opinion. Anyway i was dating this chick for 3 years or so and recently we decided to split up. Everything was great but in the last couple of months we faught like crazy and that was mainly because she wanted to go bar hopping every night and i actually had to work for a living not to mention that i had gotten a dui last year. so we mutually decided to split up. At first i missed all the things we did and all the really dumb things we laughed about but then it seemed like i was starting to find my way, thats until she started to get all weird on me. Over the last few weeks she had been calling me a lot and it always seems like its to say something mean or arrogant to me...sometimes she calls me all late as if to check up on me. if someone other than me answers then she hangs up and i know this because i have caller id haha. anyway tonight she suggested that we hang out. She came over and everything seemed legit..But then she started saying she didnt want to leave and she missed my bed..she wanted to kiss but i couldnt because i was doing so well...and thats when she flipped...she started saying how she has this bf and how great he is and insisted that i look at his photo on her cell...needless to say i told her to get the F*** outa my house. i really dont know wut she is up to or what she wants...im not feeling as crappy as i thought i would but im just kind of dissappointed in her i guess..IF YOU GOT SOMETHING POST...THANX!
Ocean-Blue Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Sup guys, Normally wouldn't be askin for help but it might be good to hear an outside opinion. Anyway i was dating this chick for 3 years or so and recently we decided to split up. Everything was great but in the last couple of months we faught like crazy and that was mainly because she wanted to go bar hopping every night and i actually had to work for a living not to mention that i had gotten a dui last year. so we mutually decided to split up. At first i missed all the things we did and all the really dumb things we laughed about but then it seemed like i was starting to find my way, thats until she started to get all weird on me. Over the last few weeks she had been calling me a lot and it always seems like its to say something mean or arrogant to me...sometimes she calls me all late as if to check up on me. if someone other than me answers then she hangs up and i know this because i have caller id haha. anyway tonight she suggested that we hang out. She came over and everything seemed legit..But then she started saying she didnt want to leave and she missed my bed..she wanted to kiss but i couldnt because i was doing so well...and thats when she flipped...she started saying how she has this bf and how great he is and insisted that i look at his photo on her cell...needless to say i told her to get the F*** outa my house. i really dont know wut she is up to or what she wants...im not feeling as crappy as i thought i would but im just kind of dissappointed in her i guess..IF YOU GOT SOMETHING POST...THANX! She misses you. Perhaps you need to set some boundaries. If you two have broken up, maybe she needs to see that it is for real (and that she can't contact you whenever she pleases). May help with the calls, etc.
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 It was a three year relationship and you both ended it recently, I can understand why she's acting that way. I find her behavior very childish. You didn't want to kiss her so she said something about her new boyfriend? Why the need to kiss you earlier?? Weird.
Author adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 Yea i really dont know...personally i think she is losing her mind haha but who knows. I mean our relationship was kind of rocky at the way begining and that has me thinking like she feels like she owes me something...she wants to get me all crazy for her and be like bam B**** i got a bf....
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 It's a good thing that you guys are no longer seeing each other. I find it a big turn off when an ex plays mind games in hopes that you will get back together. That's sad and lame!
Ocean-Blue Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Yea i really dont know...personally i think she is losing her mind haha but who knows. I mean our relationship was kind of rocky at the way begining and that has me thinking like she feels like she owes me something...she wants to get me all crazy for her and be like bam B**** i got a bf.... She got defensive and played the new bf card. You rejected her advances and so she responded with something she knew would hurt your ego. You need to start NC with her if she's not what you want.
Author adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 yes shes deff cut off...haha i should just kick her emo boyfriend's a** and get it outa the way...nah just jokin i dont hit girls:love:
Ocean-Blue Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 yes shes deff cut off...haha i should just kick her emo boyfriend's a** and get it outa the way...nah just jokin i dont hit girls:love: Her emo boyfriend is a girl?
Author adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 haaha no i really dont even know the guy i was just joken!
Ocean-Blue Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 haaha no i really dont even know the guy i was just joken! Twas a joke dude.
Author adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 he could be tho u nevaa knooo:lmao:
birdie Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 breaking up is an emotional time and this is how she is handling it. she is a little immature so she hasn't learnt how to control herself yet. hopefully it will get better and the two of you will be able to remain friends. it would be a shame to throw 3 years away over something silly as this.
Author adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 yeah i hear that...i already decided that i was just gonna lay low for a while and let her get her s*** together...i just needed some feedback...you guys rock! thnx
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I don't know if being friends with ex-es is such a great idea. They are always bad news.
Author adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 yeah i never really bought into that stuff too much...maybe for like 50 yr old real mature folk...but i dont think thats for me...i gave it a shot and look where it got me, absolutely nowhere...now things are worst then before...atleast for her if not for me as well:o
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 yeah i never really bought into that stuff too much...maybe for like 50 yr old real mature folk...but i dont think thats for me...i gave it a shot and look where it got me, absolutely nowhere...now things are worst then before...atleast for her if not for me as well:o It works for some individuals. It doesn't for me. It will make things worse when you have someone new. I realized a lot of men don't like it when their women are still keeping in touch with their ex-es, even some women too. It has never worked for me! I avoid being friends after the break up. It's less complicated!
Author adam S Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 :cool:i bet you are a heart breaker...in fact i bet most of these threads from guys are about you..
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 :cool:i bet you are a heart breaker...in fact i bet most of these threads from guys are about you.. How I wish it was all about me! I'm no heart-breaker!
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