audrey88 Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 So, my question is do guys ever call to be nice, even if they don't like a girl? I was dating this guy for around a month. We spent most of our time on the phone since I am very busy and only went out a few times. Things got physical way too soon. But, he called me a few days later and made it seem like he was waiting for my call. I called him back about a day ago and I haven't heard squat from him. He normally returns my calls within a few hours, and I would feel weird to call him again. Did he just make that last phone call to be nice?
Dynamo Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 So, my question is do guys ever call to be nice, even if they don't like a girl? I was dating this guy for around a month. We spent most of our time on the phone since I am very busy and only went out a few times. Things got physical way too soon. But, he called me a few days later and made it seem like he was waiting for my call. I called him back about a day ago and I haven't heard squat from him. He normally returns my calls within a few hours, and I would feel weird to call him again. Did he just make that last phone call to be nice? Possibly. I can't speak for all guys but I know I call just to talk / be nice to all my friends, guys or girls.
jerbear Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 So, my question is do guys ever call to be nice, even if they don't like a girl? I call my friends, family, and significant others. If they don't call you, probably not interested in friendship or relationship. If I'm intersted I would be calling more often. Even friends call out of the blue. I was dating this guy for around a month. We spent most of our time on the phone since I am very busy and only went out a few times. Things got physical way too soon. But, he called me a few days later and made it seem like he was waiting for my call. I called him back about a day ago and I haven't heard squat from him. He normally returns my calls within a few hours, and I would feel weird to call him again. Did he just make that last phone call to be nice? I think if you are that busy and the physical stuff is to quick, then maybe it wasn't meant to be.
Author audrey88 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 I call my friends, family, and significant others. If they don't call you, probably not interested in friendship or relationship. If I'm intersted I would be calling more often. Even friends call out of the blue. He did call a lot until this last time that called him. He called one day later after our last date. I just figured that if he wasn't interested in me after the last date, that he wouldn't have called period. And, during that last call he didn't mention that he wasn't interested in seeing me again or anything. Everything seemed pretty normal, for the most part. Did something change in the last few days or had he already made the decision that he was done before he even made that last phone call?
jerbear Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 And, during that last call he didn't mention that he wasn't interested in seeing me again or anything. Everything seemed pretty normal, for the most part. Did something change in the last few days or had he already made the decision that he was done before he even made that last phone call? A person's feelings can change overnight, let alone over the weekend. Not to get your hopes up or down. I think over the holidays, things are stressful for everyone. I didn't call or email my "potentials" during the last two weeks. Even when I was in a relationship, I didn't call during my family outings. I tell her that I would be unavailable to be with my family. If she wants to join, then we'll go between both families. Otherwise, this is my alone time. Maybe it is his alone time or just holidays.
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 So, my question is do guys ever call to be nice, even if they don't like a girl? Did he just make that last phone call to be nice? I don't think so. Never received any "just to be nice" phone calls and I don't do that either. I call when I want to. I always call because I like that person and not just to be nice.
LoveLace Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I think a guy might return a call just to be nice, cuz sometimes they just don't want to look like the *********...and in that call they won't mention any plans for hanging out. Otherwise, I've always been told men only do what they really, really want to do, so usually it's definite interest if he calls, especially if it's out of the blue. Friendship is an exception though, which it sounds like this is supposed to be more than friendship you have here, so it doesn't apply...there is a chance that all he might want is friendship, but if that's the case he should be honest and tell you that. Don't call anymore though, cuz if he calls "out of the blue", then you'll know he's thinking about you!
Author audrey88 Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 I think a guy might return a call just to be nice, cuz sometimes they just don't want to look like the ********* ...there is a chance that all he might want is friendship, but if that's the case he should be honest and tell you that... This relationship was definitely not approached as a friendship, ever . But, I've called him twice and left two messages with no answer or return call.... so I guess looking like a jerk is not a concern. I learned from a friend that the day after we last talked he signed a contract for work that would take him to another state for a year. (which was the point of the second call - to say congratulations) So that may have something to do with it. But, he pretty much knew that he was going to sign that contract before we even started dating. We even talked about it several times. (not in the context of how it would affect me and him, just in the context of he was worried that it wasn't going to go through) I hope jerbear is right that it's just the holidays, but my instinct says that he just changed his mind and just doesn't like me anymore. I've never been able to understand how people change their mind overnight, but I know that they do. I'm not going to call him anymore though... which means that I'm assuming that we're done. Too bad... I was starting to like him
jcster Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 In my experience, the "just to be nice" phonecalls are more prelude to a booty call than well wishes.
LoveLace Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I know how you feel Audrey, I was dating a guy that said I was his "soulmate" but 2 days later he didn't want me anymore...anyhow I'm sure his reason isn't anything you've done, I'm he's got a reason weather it's just busy or he's just a jerk like that. And it is too bad when you like someone and they do this, it's a huge disappointment.
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