he's so nice after the break-up, i want him even more

[iwanttolive]

I dated a guy who's many yrs older than me. He's the sweetest guy I've ever dated, so sensitive and he'd surprise me with little things now and then. He dropped me a bomb one day, saying we could not connect emotionally. I guess the age gap is the biggest factor. I was ok by the 2nd week after the break-up. But he dropped me a msg recently that he's been praying very hard that i'd be fine and he cares alot as a fren and I can contact him anytime if I need a listening ear. I'm truly very sad at the moment. I still have so much love and sweet memories and he's so near yet so far. Please help me, anyone?

[SYRACUSE03]

A couple of things...how long did you date and how old what are the ages if you don't mind me asking.

[iwanttolive]

I'm 25 he's 35... dated for half a year... it's not long i know, but no other guys made me feel this way before. A fren of mine told me, guys at his age knows how to make a gal floats..

[SYRACUSE03]

I'm sort of in the same boat. my ex is 26 and I'm 36. Sometimes the age gap is very difficult. I was with mine for 4 1/2 years and she called it quits. Every situation is different so if you care that much about him, let him know. Sometimes someone in their 30's wants something very different from someone in their 20's. You really need to find a common ground and build from there. He still has feelings for you, that's why he's contacting you. If you are trying to move on and he calls to make you feel guilty, tell him to stop. I'm not sure if he's calling to be genuine or but to make you feel bad.

 

It's refreshing to see someone who appreciates a thirty something year old man. Gives us something to look forward to!

 

I've been nothing but pleasant to my ex from the the day she left and it seems that she could really care less which kills me inside. I wish my ex g/f appreciated me as you do him. Good luck and I hope things work out the way you want them to.