mopar crazy Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 LOL yep he's being held hostage that's why they were happily walking hand in hand. Married men lie about their primary relationship. He's not a MM, they are engaged. But you did have a point nf. I wouldn't doubt that he is lying his a$$ off to Lizzie.
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 So they are not even married and he's trapped. Lizzie have some compassion for your fellow woman. A young woman who is probably your daughters age. Tell her. Please tell her before she marries and has children with him.
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Is there a thread on why people cheat or why some men and women chose to be with a married party???
Virgo1982 Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Is there a thread on why people cheat or why some men and women chose to be with a married party??? Almost every romantic thread contains this topic. Even if it doesn't start out that way, these questions are definitely answered by someone... There is a thread in the Marriage/Infidelity forum for why MM choose to cheat. As for the OW, Lizzie pretty much does whatever she feels like doing with no apologies. There are many OW who were lied to in the beginning and chose to stick around. Then, there are some who knew all along and felt attracted to the person. There's even one person who was the BS, then became the OW (Her husband is married to 2 women at the same time) There are soooo many different situations and reasons...
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Almost every romantic thread contains this topic. Even if it doesn't start out that way, these questions are definitely answered by someone... There is a thread in the Marriage/Infidelity forum for why MM choose to cheat. As for the OW, Lizzie pretty much does whatever she feels like doing with no apologies. There are many OW who were lied to in the beginning and chose to stick around. Then, there are some who knew all along and felt attracted to the person. There's even one person who was the BS, then became the OW (Her husband is married to 2 women at the same time) There are soooo many different situations and reasons... Baloney! I thought mine was complicated... well not really. I am not OW but been cheated on.... then one time where I thought I was cheated on, turned out I was the OW. I don't get those who chose to stay knowing that their MM is not going to leave. I was told about Lizzie's background and read up on her so I'm all good about her since she's alright with it. Whatever makes her day, right? It's some of those who have been with a MM for so long and STILL stick to the MM like she glued to him.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I went shopping today and met my young lover with his gf... hand in hand... I'm sure he saw me but didn't look at me.... it was weird... I couldn't see her face though, I just saw her from the back. She's a tall blond... I smiled... good thing he didn't look at me.. it would have been too obvious... Oh well... life goes on... The fact that you needed to post about this suggests that this encounter may have irked you some. Out of curiosity, have you considered the possibility that one of these women will catch on and try to attack you? Nothing scarier than a woman scorned...
Impudent Oyster Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Yes I wish she'd throw him out.. so I can have him more often... Do you seriously think any "nice young guy" is going to be interested in a relationship with a much older woman who is sleeping with 4 other men and gives "massages" for a living? Keep dreaming Lizzie...you provide a service, nothing more.
Virgo1982 Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Baloney! I thought mine was complicated... well not really. I am not OW but been cheated on.... then one time where I thought I was cheated on, turned out I was the OW. I don't get those who chose to stay knowing that their MM is not going to leave. I was told about Lizzie's background and read up on her so I'm all good about her since she's alright with it. Whatever makes her day, right? It's some of those who have been with a MM for so long and STILL stick to the MM like she glued to him. I wasn't giving excuses. You asked if there was somewhere you could find reasons. That's all I provided. No need for talk of deli meat...
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I wasn't giving excuses. You asked if there was somewhere you could find reasons. That's all I provided. No need for talk of deli meat... Oh you were an OW....
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 So they are not even married and he's trapped. Lizzie have some compassion for your fellow woman. A young woman who is probably your daughters age. Tell her. Please tell her before she marries and has children with him. I think even those people who are in a relationship with someone who threatens suicide can get out of it. I'm not sure if I believe in a "trap." I understand it may not be so easy, but five years later? This guy is retarded.
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I think even those people who are in a relationship with someone who threatens suicide can get out of it. I'm not sure if I believe in a "trap." I understand it may not be so easy, but five years later? This guy is retarded. no he is a liar. He wants to come off as this poor nice young guy stuck in a relationship so he doesn't seem like a jerk for screwing lizzie and she is buying his bull and patting his little head that she'll make it all better. momma lizzie to the rescue to save all the porr sexually deprived men in the world.
2sunny Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 no he is a liar. He wants to come off as this poor nice young guy stuck in a relationship so he doesn't seem like a jerk for screwing lizzie and she is buying his bull and patting his little head that she'll make it all better. momma lizzie to the rescue to save all the porr sexually deprived men in the world. yep- come here honey - mommy will rub it and make it all better!
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 no he is a liar. He wants to come off as this poor nice young guy stuck in a relationship so he doesn't seem like a jerk for screwing lizzie and she is buying his bull and patting his little head that she'll make it all better. momma lizzie to the rescue to save all the porr sexually deprived men in the world. Harsh. Lizzie, like myself, knows what she is getting herself into. When you go into an affair with a clear visual of the truth, then you are fine. If you go into the affair thinking "Oh, prince charming will leave the witch and come to me," then you are fooled (sometimes). He may be a liar, but let's give him some benefits of the doubt.
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Harsh. Lizzie, like myself, knows what she is getting herself into. When you go into an affair with a clear visual of the truth, then you are fine. If you go into the affair thinking "Oh, prince charming will leave the witch and come to me," then you are fooled (sometimes). He may be a liar, but let's give him some benefits of the doubt. what benefit of doubt would you like to give him? That he's really trapped and he's not even married while he is seen walking hand in hand with her? That he is in love with a woman who is older than his mom? um no and lizzie doesn't believe that either. What is it you would like to give him the benifit of? Where do you find any value in this man to give him the benefit of doubt?
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 He's not a MM, they are engaged. But you did have a point nf. I wouldn't doubt that he is lying his a$$ off to Lizzie. They are not engaged... but they bought a house last year together.. they've been living together for a year now... but have been dating for 5 years before.
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 So they are not even married and he's trapped. Lizzie have some compassion for your fellow woman. A young woman who is probably your daughters age. Tell her. Please tell her before she marries and has children with him. Are you out of your mind... he knows he has to do something... not me. I never kiss and tell... and I know that this time wouldn't be any different than all the other times she caught him... she catches him every time... but still refuses to leave. He told her that he wouldn't change... so what's with her.. emotionally dependant.. and financially too.
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 Is there a thread on why people cheat or why some men and women chose to be with a married party??? Maybe you can start one!
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 The fact that you needed to post about this suggests that this encounter may have irked you some. Out of curiosity, have you considered the possibility that one of these women will catch on and try to attack you? Nothing scarier than a woman scorned... It felt weird to see him with her, for sure. I have never seen any of MMs with their wife before. bizarre... Not really... I'm not scared, it doesn't even cross my mind. They would be charged...
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 Do you seriously think any "nice young guy" is going to be interested in a relationship with a much older woman who is sleeping with 4 other men and gives "massages" for a living? Keep dreaming Lizzie...you provide a service, nothing more. This one would.. and I know many young men who would love to have a relationship with a financially and emotionally secure older woman... This young guy knows about the massages, that's how I met him...but he told me he wouldn't share me... he has no clue about the other 3. Out of the 4, 2 would move with me tomorrow... him and my MM from work.
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 lol so this man is not married engaged or anything. He's just a 25 year old horny little boy. Maybe this girl is the smart one. Makes much less than him gets him when she wants and gets to live off him. Maybe she's too smart to marry a cheater and is just having some fun living the good life till she finds a real man not a hornball little boy with mommy issues.
noforgiveness Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 This one would.. and I know many young men who would love to have a relationship with a financially and emotionally secure older woman... This young guy knows about the massages, that's how I met him...but he told me he wouldn't share me... he has no clue about the other 3. Out of the 4, 2 would move with me tomorrow... him and my MM from work. oh please. you already stated how close he is with his dad and his dad would never accept you so he would never be with you.
Author Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 no he is a liar. He wants to come off as this poor nice young guy stuck in a relationship so he doesn't seem like a jerk for screwing lizzie and she is buying his bull and patting his little head that she'll make it all better. momma lizzie to the rescue to save all the porr sexually deprived men in the world. Yabbut he is NOT sexually deprived with her.. that's the thing.. they have a very healthy sex life.. he just doesn't love her anymore but she is so emotionally and financially dependant on him, it's not even funny. Oh well.. it's not like I'm waiting for him to move with me... But to be honest, he would be the only guy I would accept to live with, since he is rarely home.. (he's a workholic)...
EnigmaXOXO Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Ugh. So much time wasted on these second-hand rejects. Honestly, you depreciate your talent and worth when you squander it on all these charity cases. Now ... that rich, attractive, SINGLE guy you had in a leg lock once, he was a keeper! So how is it you let that one slip away (???) Jeesh. How do we get you to differentiate the value between a diamond in the rough and fool’s gold? Hope you’re not this at bad managing your money!
Gwyneth Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 One of my best friends was in a relationship with a girl who said she'd kill herself if he left her. He was pretty torn about that, but knew he didn't want to be with her any longer. He didn't know what to do, and he was falling hard for another girl. He was honest with the current girlfriend and told her that it is over between them. That was when she began threatening suicide. He then talked to, well I forget--either her mom or sister or someone in the family, and asked them to please help their daughter / sister. That was when the family got together and got the girl some help. It's hard, but it has to be done. A suicidal person will look for any reason to threaten suicide. Her family sent her to a special place and while she was away, my friend was able to free himself from her. She was draining him. By the time the girl had gotten better and out of the hospital, my friend was in a deep relationship with the other girl. Cara, the suicidal girl, had difficulty with the fact that who she thought was her boyfriend was with another girl. I think her parents had to tell her that she and boyfriend should take some time apart and let her heel--that is what my friend wanted her to do too. So it all worked out with some help from family and friends.
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