route1 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 right here i go. i am 22 my ex is 20 we were together for 3 1/2 years she loved me so much and would have done anything for me. at the start of the relationship we never had the honeymoon period that people talk about. i did not get the butterflies or anything like that when i was going to meet her like i here your suppose to. because she was attractive i stayed with her. over the years i treated her really really well even tho i was not in love her i did love her. i always tried to make her happy because i did relly care. she always wanted married were that was not for me. so that caused arguments and i was always giving her faulse promises to keep her happy. then a few months ago we had a big row and split up. she did want me back she kept asking me back i just thought so much had happened and decided we should move on. but after not speaking to her for a few weeks i started getting depressed and really down and could not eat for a few days. plus had to take a week off work because i was lonley and i missed her and felt guilty for all the pain i caused her. then one day she rings and we meet and kiss go to the cinema and all them things. so after a month of this she asks me to be boyfrind,girlfriend again and i say no we are better just seeing each other but not going steady. that way i thought i get to see her plus no one gets hurt if it does not work. but that was not true she took that bad and decided not to contact me anymore i have not heard from her in a week and i feel like i am gettin down and lonley and a we bit depressed again. obviously if i was in love with her i would have jumped at the chance of having one more try. so now i have lost that we special person to me we treated each other very well. i am just wondering is it normall to feel like this even tho i had the chance to fix it and i didnt. if i just got speaking to her on the phone 10 minutes a day my day felt normall again and i did not feel like this. i have so much feeling of regret even tho it has to have been the right decsion. i do not want her to be with some1 else that would reallly annoy me. i no this all sounds selfish but i am really confused and need some advice i feel rotten and feel like i am never going to fell normall again plz help
omit Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 This is a tough one, not sure what to tell you. i know its not help at all but if its to be it will be
madgun68 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 That is one hard position to be in. Ultimately, at least from the sound of it, this may be for the best. If you and her were to continue, things would likely fall in to the same pattern.. Her loving you and you not being able to return those feelings. I think your initial thoughts are probably for the best in this case, at least for now. The relationship you two were in was not healthy for either of you, and I really think (at least for now) it would be best if both of you moved on and searched for parters that are you each are capable of loving and having that love returned. I think it may be possible for both of you to resume contact at some point, but I really doubt it'll be anything like what you once shared. In the very least, I think you should really spend some time focusing on you and what you really want. Out of life and in another person.
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