lil_usagi7 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 My bf(?) sent this email out to a female classmate. Too me, this is an obvious act of cheating. He says it isn't because he never kissed/dated/slept with the girl. To him he says he did nothing wrong or "do you blame me?" The thing I'm embarrassed to admit is that this has happened many times before... similar email, different girls, same excuse (I didn't do anything wrong). And to think... 3 days earlier he told me he loved me, that he wanted the relationship to work work, and wanted to get married. I feel like I'm going crazy because I'm being told I shouldn't feel upset but I am. (I've removed their names and personal info) ---------------------------- Original Message ---------------------------- Subject: is this Jane Doe??? this is John Doe From: [email protected] To: [email protected] -------------------------------------------------------------------------- hey Jane Doe... i just got home like 15 min ago and i was writing u an e-mail but then i just deleted it so i'm starting again.... i'm going to cut out all the crap... and just get to it this time... i reallie like you and i hope u like me too... i'd call u to ask u out on a date-date rite now if it wuznt 2am... maybe me we can get some coffee and take a walk on the beach sunday nite if u're up for it... as much as a like you and reallie wanna' go out with u, i have to be honest... i'm currently in a dead-end relationship right now. we've been on/off for a couple of years. i know this relationship is going nowhere... we're on our second "break" in a month (the last time, i called u like everyday for a week; i don't know if u noticed how hard i was trying to spend time w/ you to get to know you better) so yea, i think i may have killed what chances i have with that, but i had to be honest with you. i'll still call you tomorrow and probably pretend i hadn't written this. if you have an questions you need to ask for clarification, let me know and i'll do my best to answer them. thanks for hearing me out, -John Doe p.s. this is the 1st or second time at the most i've told a girl i liked her and asked her out without knowing the answer... usually, i just "let things happen" but i didn't want to do that with you be nice to me!! ;-P
Enema Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 There's no mystery here. Your guy is a pathetic, illiterate excuse of a man and does not love you one little bit. Dump him now, and get yourself a blood test.
Curmudgeon Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 There's no mystery here. Your guy is a pathetic, illiterate excuse of a man and does not love you one little bit. Dump him now, and get yourself a blood test. ...said it better. Bozo's a player, a gamer and a loser. Get rid of him or your life will be miserable.
Mr. Lucky Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 illiterate excuse of a man My favorite part of your comment ! What do people like this do when they have to write a business letter or compose a resume? I guess the spelling, grammar and punctuation skills come out of hibernation at that point... Mr. Lucky
White Flower Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 What wrong with him other than a cheat who needs HOOKED ON PHONICS? That was a good one! Lil' usagi7, He is keeping you waiting in the wings until he has something secure with her. He is just waiting for her to take the bait. Once she bites, he is jumping ship. When dumps his loser A$$, he'll be back to you because you are putting up with it. Why stay with a guy who says your relationship is going no where? DTMFA:cool: Dump the -- -- already!
Author lil_usagi7 Posted November 25, 2007 Author Posted November 25, 2007 And to think, this was the same guy that begged, cried, and yearned for another chance with me and said he'd never do anything to jeopardize the relationship ever again a few months ago. I just talked to the girl... turns out she already has a bf. She barely knows John Doe and isn't interested. She offered be friends because she feels horrible for what has just happened to me. So I guess, my next question is how do you go about ending/confronting this? Sorry for my nativity... I'm just so hurt and upset right now...
Curmudgeon Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 So I guess, my next question is how do you go about ending/confronting this? Begin with the four little words that strike terror into any man's heart, "We need to talk!" Then look him square in the eye and say, "On second thought, no we don't. You're off the hook." When he expels an audible sigh of relief tell him, "And I'm off the hook too you no good, lying, cheating (insert favorite insulting term here)!" Then turn on your pretty heels and sashay away while he's still trying to catch his breath and formulate his next pack of lies. You'll be done and will be done with him while he'll merely be done-in.
abeliever Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Hey, everything being said here is so on target! If you do stay and listen to anything he has to say trust this... it will all be a pack of lies. First he will do anything to save what you two had. But remember what he said your relationship is a "dead end relationship"! So let it be just that. You know it's going to be hard, but it could be a lot harder with kids in tow and trying to keep it all together. Be thankful you learned now instead of later on in years. Best of luck, you don't need it, remember you love YOU more than HIM! You will be fine. abeliever
ithemachine Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Take him at his word. "i'm currently in a dead-end relationship right now."
LifesontheUp Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 Myself, I would just send him the e-mail you found but with some changes: hey John Doe... i just got home like 15 min ago and i was writing u an e-mail but then i just deleted it so i'm starting again.... i'm going to cut out all the crap... and just get to it this time... i reallie don't like you anymore... i'd call u to tell u but I just can't be bothered right now. as much as i thought i like'd you and reallie wanted to make it work with u, i have to be honest... i've realised we are in a dead-end relationship. we've been on/off for a couple of years and i know this relationship is going nowhere... we're on our second "break" in a month. so yea, i think our relationship is crap and i had to be honest with you. i won't be calling you tomorrow or any other day. if you have an questions you need to ask for clarification, don't bother cause i'm moving on with my life. thanks for hearing me out, He doesn't warrant anything other than something like this IMHO.
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 If that is not cheating... I don't know what is!!! I hope you have cut the loser off!!!
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I agree with the others - he comes off sounding like a complete illiterate moron. Aside from his obvious limited intelligence, he's a pathetic excuse for a human being who wouldn't know the truth if it were shoved up his a*ss with a shovel. Why are you worried about how to break up with this little loser? Maybe you can send HIM an illiterate email telling him you're breaking up with him - but be sure to type it in ghetto speak so Einstein can comprehend it.
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