Noddy Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Hello everyone, this is my first time posting here. I'm struggling to deal with my relationship ending and I just need to talk. We've been together 3 and a half years. We started badly with many break ups and makes ups but lately we've been good. About 6 months ago he quit his job to study full time and travel. He went away for a month in June and again in Sep but in his Sep trip we had a fight (about a picture he put on facebook) and he stayed away for an extra month and only came home at the beg of November. Things just have gone down hill from there. I'm 28 and he's 30 and one of the things we fought about was that he doesn't incl me in his plans. About 2 weeks ago, we talked and he said he wanted to break up. Then he said no, he wants us to stay together then on Friday I found sms to and from another woman he had met up with on his holiday (ex colleague) they were flirting. He said nothing had happened it was harmless fun. Then I said ok, I'll believe him then I asked him to send this girl an sms to say that there will be no more flirting and he got all upset and said I didn't trust him (duh) and had decided he wants to break up after all as "his heart was no longer in this". I said ok. Then he started smsing how he will miss me. I'm his best friend, his family loves me etc etc. I'm close to his family and I really love them too. That was yesterday, I told him that I could not talk with him as it hurt me. I cried frm the pain of the break up til I couldn't breathe it hurt so much. But today I just couldn't handle the pain. He is my best friend,I talk to him first when I have a prob and he gets me so in my pain about him, I called him and asked to meet him. We've just been hanging and chatting. The thing is, I can't help wondering about that other woman. I donno if I can deal with this break up alone as i have no-one that helps the pain like being with him. But even as "friends" I couldn't deal with the other woman as it will make me see him in a diff lite (lying, dishnest) and I'll lose him (mybest frien). I donno wot to do. B4 I could deal with break ups but I my heart can't deal with the pain anymore. How do Imove onfrom him if I'm still"hanging" out with him?
asilisa Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 i don't think you can move on from him if you are still hanging out. i couldn't imagine hanging out with my ex. it's just so natural for you to want to act as a couple with him...so how can it work as friends right now? my advice is to lean on friends and family and stop talking to him. I know it is hard but you gotta do it for yourself. Trust me I know the pain as I just got out of a 4 year relationship. Good luck
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