Heavenly55 Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Is this a deal breaker for some of you? Am I the only one that finds it a huge turn off when men in their mid to late 20s still live at home with their parents and have no plans on moving out. Most of the females I've encountered at work, aquaintances etc all have their own places by the time they are in their late 20s, maybe it's just something about the area I live in because the majority of guys still live at home with their families. All the ones I've met at work and such though live on their own. Some even moved in with their gfs and they all split the rent. Now I used to hate having guys over my house when I lived at home. For me, I felt like I had no privacy I mean even to hold a conversation you can hear everything through the walls let alone anything else. I've also noticed that it's always the guys shacking up in their girlfiriends apartments. Now I have my own place but can't imagine being confined to always staying at my place bc my bf doens't have his own place. And I would not feel comfortable staying over a guys house who is still living with his family. I know a few girls that had guys move in with them after dating not even a month. Of course these guys were originally living with mom and dad. To me these guys are total mooches. I can understand being caught up in the relationship, or being in love but shouldn't this person then contribute towards the rent. I mean they are eating your food, using your water, etc. A family friend of mine her son got a girlfriend and now has diappeared from the house. He stays over his gf's place for weeks at a time. What does he bring a suitcase over with clothes? He also disappeared for thanskgiving not even calling his family to wish them a happy thanksgiving I guess spending the day with her family. I mean if I cut out guys completely who are still living with their folks what am I left with it? A guy I am talking to now is still living at home but he's always saying how it's so great bc they'er never home. Well, it's still not your own place. I have hinted that if he was an adult he would move out when he starts complaining about his commute to work to the area he once lived in. He supposdly makes good money so what is the hold up. I don't want to scare guys off or sound like a control freak. I can't tell them you have such and such time span to move out on your own lol but I just don't get it.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 My boyfriend lives at home, but the situation is a bit different than your examples. He was living on his own for a while, but after racking up thousands of dollars in student loan debts, he moved back home. On that same token, I'm quite a bit younger than him, and I'm living on my own, so it's always a bit of a source of contention for me. If I can do it while still going to school, he can do it now that he's out of school!
CD111 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I think it definitely depends on the situation. I am in my mid twenties and almost done with a grad degree. I will move back home for a while until I find a job. Also my mom just lost her job two months ago, so I may be there for financial reasons also. Me paying rent will help ensure that my mom can pay the mortgage. So I might be living at home until my mom finds a good new job. However, if the guys are living at home, just free loading of their parents and actually have good jobs I would be suspicious of the situation.
Author Heavenly55 Posted November 25, 2007 Author Posted November 25, 2007 I think it definitely depends on the situation. I am in my mid twenties and almost done with a grad degree. I will move back home for a while until I find a job. Also my mom just lost her job two months ago, so I may be there for financial reasons also. Me paying rent will help ensure that my mom can pay the mortgage. So I might be living at home until my mom finds a good new job. However, if the guys are living at home, just free loading of their parents and actually have good jobs I would be suspicious of the situation. Yes, that is true. I am in grad school too and work full time at a job I hate while I finish school so I can support myself to live on my own. I have the option of moving back but to me well it's something I would never do unless a family member was sick or something. Yeah I find it suspicious in that I think alot of people lack the motivation of wanting to live on their own.
mpower95 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I lived on my own and ended up moving back home with my parents when I decided to take up a new profession and get a 4 year degree from an art school. I was 23 at the time and now I'm 27 and have about a year left. While I do miss the privacy, I had to make the sacrifice as I would have to take part time jobs while finishing my degree and paying rent in the SF Bay area is hard enough on a full time salary. I am straight forward with all women that I date, that I am living at home. I have nothing to be ashamed of, and to this day not one has given me any grief about it. But then again I do have career goals and do plan on moving out again. I can imagine I would get a much different reaction if I had no plans of moving out and just worked dead end jobs, or no job at all.
ImThinkingWTF Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 both of my last two exes lived at home....both were in their late 20's. both were total mooches. I still think it depends on the situation. if they actually have other things going for them, like an education, good job....then it wouldnt be a deal breaker. but, i sure as hell wouldnt let anyone move in with me again and would be really cautious about dating a guy that lived at home. but, not because they live at home but, because of the type of guy im used to meeting that lives at home...most are losers.
Leia Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I've never gone out with a guy that still lives with his parents but I do have a guy friend who lives in his parents' pool house which is pretty much like his own place . Some guys are adorable when they still live with their parents. I have nothing against those who live with their parents unless they are freeloading off their parents then that would be a huge turn off! I love my man to be independent and financially stable because I am both. I pamper my man a lot and I expect the same in return.
cutegirl Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I'm 29 and I don't care. I am not looking for financial stability in a man. Sometimes I even like to take care of a man and help him out.
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