audioslave Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I'm a 19 year old guy who still is a virgin. When the subject comes up in a conversation with females most of them seem really surprised or don't believe it that I am a virgin still, which I find kinda weird that they don't. I have had a couple opportunities to have sex but decided against it. Its not that I'm waiting for marriage to have sex but that I want it to happen with someone special and have meaning. My question is that if you were in a relationship with someone who is still a virgin and you have already lost your virginity and are more experienced with sex would it turn you off to the relationship? or would it be a turn on? And I'm also interested in what your comments are on what I said above about waiting to have sex with someone special and have it meaning.
EricOnTheWeb Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Hi there, AudioSlave, I'm Eric. I turned 30 just a few days ago and I am still a Virgin, so don't fret dude, You're 19, so you have all the time in the world. Really I believe that girls have a harder time accepting that a male partner is a virgin, I believe it is a turn off for them. On the other hand If a guy "bangs" a virgin chick, then that's a major turn on for the dude. I guess it's because guy's have this "wanna F*ck everything" attitude, and girls want meaningful sex with nice guys. So when a girl finds a virgin guy, she probablt thinks "well this guy is a virgin at this age?" He must be an insecure mammma's boy" So that would be a turn off for the girl.. I guess the girl doesn't want to play "teacher". You're 19, don't worry. You'll get a nice GF soon enough and it will happen. Just do me a favor, don't be 30 and still a virgin, trust me....
IpAncA Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 My question is that if you were in a relationship with someone who is still a virgin and you have already lost your virginity and are more experienced with sex would it turn you off to the relationship? or would it be a turn on? I won't lie...some will be okay with it and some won't. If you come across those who are not okay with it, then move on. Their not worth your time. There's more to a relationship then sex...although there are some on here that would disagree. Just do me a favor, don't be 30 and still a virgin, trust me.... There's nothing wrong with being 30 and a virgin.
samsungxoxo Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Well when I was your age last year, I too was a virgin myself and like you, I never care about waiting till marriage. I saw no point in it and instead I wanted to do it with the right special and the moment had to be special. I lost mines 3 months before turning 20 (sometime in Jan. of this year) so it hasn't been too long ago. As for experienced person with virgins, he didn't mind me being virgin. It isn't about how many partners the person had but about quality and respect. I too at some point thought it was embarass not having getting laid at 19 and was thinking of lying to b/f telling him about fake experiences but he would have figure it out. In the end we're now 15 months of our relationship and hoping to get marry.
RamChops Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I'm a 19 year old guy who still is a virgin. When the subject comes up in a conversation with females most of them seem really surprised or don't believe it that I am a virgin still, which I find kinda weird that they don't. I have had a couple opportunities to have sex but decided against it. Its not that I'm waiting for marriage to have sex but that I want it to happen with someone special and have meaning. My question is that if you were in a relationship with someone who is still a virgin and you have already lost your virginity and are more experienced with sex would it turn you off to the relationship? or would it be a turn on? And I'm also interested in what your comments are on what I said above about waiting to have sex with someone special and have it meaning. Hi audioslave, you sound a lot like I was when I was your age. I was a few days shy of 20 when I lost my virginity, to someone who was really special to me. We knew each other really well, had spent a lot of time together and felt "connected", and from the time we got together to the time we had sex was about 18 months. Waiting and growing together made us emotionally intimate as well as physically intimate, and that was important to me. It probably helped that we were both virgins too. Looking back, I wouldn't change that experience for the world. Hope you find the right special person who can share your first moment of intimacy, audioslave Eric, if you're still monitoring this thread, are you willing to share the reasons why you're still a virgin at 30? Not being critical in asking, just curious
hurtin Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I was in the same boat as you. I was a little older than you when I lost mine. most of my friends had lost theirs long before i did. I never had a serious gf. Went on lots of dates but no one that was special enough. When I finally lost it, it was with a girl I had been dating for a few months. That was a mistake. The whole relationship changed and so did she. We broke up shortly thereafter. i wish I would have waited for the "ONE".
JCD Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 A woman who falls in love with you couldn't care less if you're a virgin or not. It's all about emotional bonding anyways.
beachlover Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I just lost my virginity a few months ago when I was a few weeks past turning 21. My boyfriend is 24 and I was number 17 for him (most of which were when he was in high school), he says he was nervous to take my virginity because he didn't want to hurt me, he said it wasn't too much of a turn on then because he was weirded out because he had never had sex with a virgin before, but he likes knowing now that he is the only one I have been with. As for the waiting for someone special, I completely agree. My last relationship was 3 years long (from age 17-20) and I didn't have sex with him because I didn't feel right about it, I wasn't ready. My current bf and I had sex before we were actually together, for some reason I knew that he didn't see me as a one night stand and that he would stick around, he was special to me then and he still is now. You will know when you are ready to have sex, if you do it before you are ready you will regret it and probably regret who you lost it to.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 It all depends on your partner, doesn't it? Some people can go without having sex and still date while others see it as a "must". I personally think you'd be hard pressed to find many people who are willing to do the waiting thing if they've already had sex (and you haven't). BUT, there are always exceptions. Also, how important is it that your partner be a virgin? If you are going to wait for the right person...do you not expect the same?
Leia Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 I find it a turn on and it wouldn't be a big deal if he was a virgin and I am not. It could be exciting for some women to be a guy's first!
Author audioslave Posted November 27, 2007 Author Posted November 27, 2007 Also, how important is it that your partner be a virgin? If you are going to wait for the right person...do you not expect the same? Hmmm I've never really thought of that before but if it happens with that special someone like I want it too I don't think I would be bothered if she had already lost hers.
rdnjr Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I think that everyone has a different view on this, but I think that virginity is very over rated. I lost my virginity at age 19, and I'm 20 now, and I woke up the day after losing my virginity I was still the same person, just that I wasn't a virgin anymore. It created a little bit of an emotional thing for me toward the girl I lost it to but that feeling quickly went away when she cheated on me ..lol. Sure it would have meant a lot more if I would have waited for the right girl but now that I look at it I really don't care. It's just sex, it's a totally natural, instinctual human occurance, and I don't see the significance in virginity. Although it does play an important role in a relationship and emotional bonding. Just my .02
fetish Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 I lost my virginity at 17 going on 18. Pretty soon after that, I was the man!
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 i think guys who are virgins are so cute lol...that means that if your at an age where you arent suppose to be a virgin makes a guy seem more respectful..like i think that a 19 year old virgin is not a player because if he was he would be ****ing all these different girls many times a day and having no respect for girls...i dont find that a turn off its very sweet....wait till you find that special someone dont be in such a hurry once you find that special girl its not just going to feel pleasurable but its going to feel very special and its going to be beautiful...unforgetable...
beansaregood Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 Hell No i lost my virgin to a slut!!! she was way more experienced then me but she was pissed out her face. I had amazing sex and i wasnt worried at all
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