nytro Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Hey everyone, I just thought i should talk to you guys about this since none of my friends couldn't really help me out so.. yeah Well basically i just got through a time where i was pretty depressed about everything in my life, how things just go wrong and i can't get things going the direction I want them, I was always misunderstood and I still am.. What i want is just, i see other guys with girls and i just think to myself why can't i have that? Right now there are 2 girls that i have started getting interested in really, just talking with in general and stuff. It's just that I don't know how to up the scales really, if you get what i mean, like move onto another a level of friendship and see where that goes from there. This one girl i've known for almost 3 years or so, we usually see each other in the mornings for a bit, we used to have "something" but that died out sometime ago... i only talk her sometimes because i am afraid of approaching her and just talking her, im just worried that she might not want to talk to me or something, and when we do get to talking, she always starts to think im making fun of her or something because the way i said something =/ and then thats where the misunderstanding comes in...Theres also this other girl i met a little wile ago, she seemed really sweet, kind and funny and we had the same interests, it's just that until i dont "break the ice" with someone, things are really awkward when we speak, i know that she wants to get me to talk her more but it's almost as if im running out of things to say/ask =( I just wish that I could be more social with just people in general, im probably one of the most judged people, im not an idiot or anything, just that i know that there are those who talk about me and say things, i'll tell myself, it doesn't matter what they say, but it always will...
Author nytro Posted November 26, 2007 Author Posted November 26, 2007 ok.. i get it 38 views no replies
rdnjr Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 You have not care about what people think of you. People will always have an opinion, and you can't just be submissive to everyone to satisfy their wants and what they expect of you. You do what you want to do and strive to achieve your goals, and if they don't like it then tough. Work on being happy alone first, then, and only then you can have a good relationship. If you don't, what tends to happen is that you revolve your happiness around your girlfriend, and when things don't work out, you will fall into a huge slump. Take up new hobbies, hang out with friends, be yourself, and have fun. Girls will see this and they will start to take interest in you. You have to start approaching girls and things like that. You will get rejected, everyone does, I have, it's just a part of life. Shrug it off, forget about it, and move on. Consider it their loss and not yours. They don't know you, so it doesn't matter. It's the initial approach that really catches 'em. Most girls want the guys to initiate relationships with them. I only had it happen once where she approached me. They have problems and insecurities and are human too, just like you and me. As for talking to them, just ask open ended questions and talk away to each other. It takes time to catch on, so get out there and start talking to them dude . Good Luck.
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