Trying to cope....

[HarakIgia]

I've been on the threads sharing and asking questions. I've gotten some wonderful replies and I look forward to sharing and learning more and more. I feel a little stuck today a little lost. He left on Sunday so it's almost been a week. I've been doing my best to hold it all together for the kids. It's hard at times. I just want to cry and let it out. But, I look at them and think this isn't fair to them.

 

I've asked in another thread how to communicate to my H. He's very angry with me for asking him to leave. But, it needed to happen. You can read the full story in my other threads mostly on this one.

 

He moves into a apartment on Wed. We're financially strapped so extras are tough. Not to mention the apartment. What I'm trying to figure out is how do I communicate that he should take things from our home. We've got almost everything that he'll need. Do I just write him an email? I'm one of those people that's always there. Always helpful, always forgiving, and always picking up the pieces. My sister in law (his brother's wife) has said to leave him alone. Don't communicate to him, don't ask when he'll see the kids etc. Let all communication if any be from him.

 

I'd really like to know what you all think? I've never been here and I'm so sad. I know this is the right thing for me and the kids. But, that doesn't mean I'm not mourning the loss of our family unit. The promises we once made and the love that was once there.

 

I know people say time heals all. But, at the moment all I feel is hurt and confused at how people say they love you and then turn around and treat you like crap. I just don't get how we treat eachother this way. What's the point?

 

I've always tried to be open, understanding and loving. I've always tried to see things from the other persons perspective. I like who I am. I just don't understand how my H can look at himself in the mirror. How can he live with himself treating me the way he has. But, most importantly treating his kids this way? I just don't get it.

 

Please forgive the rambling email. I'm just having one of those days. It's raining and cold outside. I guess I'll have days like these. I just don't want to lose hope that he'll find his way back. The only problem is that I want the man I married not the current version of him. Do they ever soul search and realize what's important again? Does that ever happen? Does it ever work?

 

Thanks for reading in advance.