Trialbyfire Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 This might not be THE most helpful "safe place" a person experiencing abuse could turn to, but it's a start, and anyone who's been through it knows that baby steps are a start, and many people suffering abuse, might need to take those self same baby steps. Also, many of us have been there, and can give good and caring advice, as well as support to know that one isn't alone. I am surely not saying LS is better than a dometic violence shelter, but hopefully, we can help the people that need to be there, get there. Safely and with support. It's better than NOT reaching out at all..... I completely agree mm. The younglings aren't always knowledgeable about their options, so hopefully, there will be LS members who can help give ideas and if nothing else, some support for them to gain the courage to seek help. Most often, abuse is surrounded by secrecy and many children pay the price of remaining silent, from fear, a misplaced sense of loyalty or a sense of responsibility to younger sibs. It's pure tragedy. If these children can take the first baby steps of letting go of the secret in cyberspace, perhaps they can gain the courage to let the secret go, in real life. My apologies for my rant. I adore children and wish that every single one of them was treasured, like they deserve to be.
Racquel Colette Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Yeah, I would never date a guy who frequented this site.
lindya Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Goodness, Lindy, that was downright acerbic. I'm very disappointed in you. I know. I'm sorry scratch. Now that I've finally managed to escape, Houdini-like, from the handcuffs and the punishment room, I can address some of this. The problem with this misguided fellow is that his contempt of humanity is missing any hint of amusement. He dislikes women as people, which can be relatively fun, but instead of lightheartedly pointing out their idiosyncrasies, he just gets unpleasantly angry at how frustrating they can be. What's the point? It's like getting angry at my dog for chewing up my porn collection. This board has suddenly become a dark place for me. Contemplating the possibility that a confident, suave gentleman such as yourself could garner a threesome, well, that's funny. Sunblast's threesome? I think that's where your dog and the chewed up porn collection come into play. Yeah, I would never date a guy who frequented this site. Would you consider having a Friends With Benefits situation with a guy from this site? If he was just that into you?
oppath Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Yeah, I would never date a guy who frequented this site. Why not? You asked this question! You are dating a woman and go to pick her up at her apartment for a date. You get there and REALLY need to use the restroom all of the sudden. So, you ask to use her restroom and she says "yes." YOu go into her apparently spotless, lovely clean bathroom only to notice there is a big, HUGE floater as you lift the lid of the toilet. Would this be a turnoff to you? Just wondering.
Citizen Erased Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Yeah, I would never date a guy who frequented this site. I doubt they'd want to date you either
Lyssa Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Yeah, I would never date a guy who frequented this site. They might be frequenting this site without you knowing. Don't tell me you ask them "Do you know a website called "Loveshack"? Are you a member?" on the first date?
lindya Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Why not? You asked this question! You are dating a woman and go to pick her up at her apartment for a date. You get there and REALLY need to use the restroom all of the sudden. So, you ask to use her restroom and she says "yes." YOu go into her apparently spotless, lovely clean bathroom only to notice there is a big, HUGE floater as you lift the lid of the toilet. Would this be a turnoff to you? Just wondering. Priceless. I wonder if that's what the writers of The Rules meant when they talked about being a creature unlike any other.
sb129 Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Yeah, I would never date a guy who frequented this site. Oh the hypocrisy. Keep it up RC, your posts are getting more and more entertaining! I doubt they'd want to date you either They might be frequenting this site without you knowing. Don't tell me you ask them "Do you know a website called "Loveshack"? Are you a member?" on the first date? I think they have to fill out a questionnaire prior to the first date to see if they are eligible to move on the the next round.
Lyssa Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 I think they have to fill out a questionnaire prior to the first date to see if they are eligible to move on the the next round. Yup, I think so too - I can see that happening.
Racquel Colette Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 I doubt they'd want to date you either Oh, they would.
Racquel Colette Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Priceless. I wonder if that's what the writers of The Rules meant when they talked about being a creature unlike any other. It was a post meant to add a little humor, and I'm sorry that you weren't astute enough to catch the satire.
Racquel Colette Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Priceless. I wonder if that's what the writers of The Rules meant when they talked about being a creature unlike any other. Sorry that you weren't astute enough to catch the humor and parody of that post.
lindya Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 It was a post meant to add a little humor, and I'm sorry that you weren't astute enough to catch the satire. Oh I see. You thought it was amusing to conjure up the image of you leaving a large turd in your toilet for some other unsuspecting person to discover. Sharp and fast, yet subtle and classy. Sorry I missed it.
LiveKhaos Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Wow... some of you are against this forum, but to be honest then why the F*** are you here? I've rarely EVER had any problems getting women, and I'm not just BS-ing... I'm not the type to be "OMG she texted me what do I do next?"...I've dated a lot of women, and if I wanted to have success with any of them then I could have made it work out...but NONE of them were worth it nor worth my time... But then I found someone special and decided that even though I've never had any women problems, I didn't want to mess this up, so maybe on Love shack they could help me out with a little speculation I've been having... But you guys (ex..Sunblast) are ridiculous...If you don't like the posts exhibited on this site then get the F*** out...simple...
oppath Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Wow... some of you are against this forum, but to be honest then why the F*** are you here? I've rarely EVER had any problems getting women, and I'm not just BS-ing... I'm not the type to be "OMG she texted me what do I do next?"...I've dated a lot of women, and if I wanted to have success with any of them then I could have made it work out...but NONE of them were worth it nor worth my time... But then I found someone special and decided that even though I've never had any women problems, I didn't want to mess this up, so maybe on Love shack they could help me out with a little speculation I've been having... But you guys (ex..Sunblast) are ridiculous...If you don't like the posts exhibited on this site then get the F*** out...simple... Some people do have problems: extreme shyness, anxiety, depression, etc that make little things like calling a man or woman back more than a little nervous, but downright excrutiating. It's easy to roll your eyes if you have not been there or even gone through the journey, but some people do need advice for what most of us construe as common sense. And in all fairness, some women can be downright confusing. I mean, sometimes if a woman does not look at you, it just means she is ignoring you. Other times, it means she actually likes you a lot (but it nervours). How can you tell? You march up to them and say "I can't help but notice, you weren't looking at me at all. Does that mean you like me, or are you ignoring me?"
oppath Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Sorry that you weren't astute enough to catch the humor and parody of that post. Come on, that post was simply not believable. We all know girls don't actually poo!
sb129 Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 I like LS because in the year and a bit I have been here, I have received some awesome advice on how to get over my last very very destructive R, however, luckily since then I have also met and got engaged to a great guy. I would like to think I have given some good advice, had some good debates, learned a thing or two, and come into contact with some very cool, funny, smart and astute people, many of whom I would like to meet IRL one day. Many others help me realise how lucky I am on a daily basis, and also make me realise how NORMAL I am!!! lol If people think its ridiculous, why bother coming here, because if your only purpose is to stir things up, it will get boring.
LiveKhaos Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Some people do have problems: extreme shyness, anxiety, depression, etc that make little things like calling a man or woman back more than a little nervous, but downright excrutiating. It's easy to roll your eyes if you have not been there or even gone through the journey, but some people do need advice for what most of us construe as common sense. And in all fairness, some women can be downright confusing. I mean, sometimes if a woman does not look at you, it just means she is ignoring you. Other times, it means she actually likes you a lot (but it nervours). How can you tell? You march up to them and say "I can't help but notice, you weren't looking at me at all. Does that mean you like me, or are you ignoring me?" I actually didn't mean to come off conceited or anything like that, and I'm sorry if I offended anyone... I completely understand you... I said I've rarely have had problems with women which its true but I meant the women that I've gotten the guts to actually approach... I've been there, the nervousness and the what the heck I'm getting mixed signals...but with those type of women I just never really approached because I was either intimidated or scared... But I definitely understand that there are people who have issues getting women and need help AND that is why I think that this site is an awesome place in order to get help in that area... Just because you look for help on this site about how to get/read women it does not mean in any way that you are incompetent, it just means that your not an expert in that field...As I believe I'm not an expert at getting women... That is why when I read SunBlast's post I got pissed because people like that act like they can get any women and if others need help with that then their incompetent... You understand?
sb129 Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 That is why when I read SunBlast's post I got pissed because people like that act like they can get any women and if others need help with that then their incompetent... You understand? Understand and agree! I think that if you are man enough to admit you need a little advice here and there on how to get women (or men for that matter) then you are instantly more attractive than a man of SunBlasts ilk. I met my fiance online- the fact that he was on a dating site meant that he was clearly interested in a relationship and wasn't afraid to admit it, neither was he afraid to try alternative ways of finding a GF. It worked for him!
LoveLace Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 There are no concrete rules as for why people should be here. This is a type of support group/advice forum. It's open to all ages and populations. It's open to the very experienced, and to the inexperienced. I don't always get answers to what I seek but it still helps just to vent or express my feelings at times. We have that freedom here. If you don't agree with it I don't know why you visit. What's better than being in a place where everyone's completely anonymous; sometimes we seek advice that we might be too embarrassed to ask friends or family for. There are very young adults here who are not very knowledgable of dating or relationships (hell I'm 30 and still have questions) so what better to do, than to ask people are more experienced or wiser? Sometimes things are analyzed a little too much, and I'm guilty of that, but so what? I certainly don't lose sleep over it! Personalities vary among people, so some are extremely curious while others are vague. I don't know why someone cares so much about WHY people are here and what they are seeking...if you don't like the way the forum is run, then start your own!
LiveKhaos Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Understand and agree! I think that if you are man enough to admit you need a little advice here and there on how to get women (or men for that matter) then you are instantly more attractive than a man of SunBlasts ilk. I met my fiance online- the fact that he was on a dating site meant that he was clearly interested in a relationship and wasn't afraid to admit it, neither was he afraid to try alternative ways of finding a GF. It worked for him! If you have a GF or BF and you come on here because you need help with your relationship, that means that you actually care about your relationship and you're not afraid to admit that you actually need the help... I have no one (expect my "significant" other) that can understand me the way that I want them to and lives in driving distance from my home...despite all of the friends and family I have around me... thus when I needed a question answered I came on here...is that so wrong? No, I personally don't think so... Would it be better to keep everything to yourself and deal with it alone, knowing that you have help available (even if it is online)? Nope, not something I believe is emotionally "healthy".
Racquel Colette Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Hey, do you know what parody is? I was parodying (I actually know this isn't a verb) other ridiculous posts on here.
sb129 Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 If you have a GF or BF and you come on here because you need help with your relationship, that means that you actually care about your relationship and you're not afraid to admit that you actually need the help... I have no one (expect my "significant" other) that can understand me the way that I want them to and lives in driving distance from my home...despite all of the friends and family I have around me... thus when I needed a question answered I came on here...is that so wrong? No, I personally don't think so... Would it be better to keep everything to yourself and deal with it alone, knowing that you have help available (even if it is online)? Nope, not something I believe is emotionally "healthy". I don't come on here because I need help with my current R, things are pretty good in that respect (touch wood). Although having said that there have been a few occasions that I have had a rant on here that probably diverted a potential argument IRL. I DID need help when I was coming out of my last (very very bad) R. RC- yes, we know what parody means. Lindya and I live in England- British humour is famous for its use of irony, satire and parodies. I find it amusing that an American is trying to point out the meaning of the word parody to Lindya of all people!
Trimmer Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Hey, do you know what parody is? I was parodying (I actually know this isn't a verb) other ridiculous posts on here. Like this one? Yeah, I would never date a guy who frequented this site. In order for humor to work - especially parody - you have to have the trust of your audience. If your audience does not trust you (and communicating contempt for your audience in your humor is a big trust-breaker) then you are likely to end up with a misfire. They won't "buy in." Sunblast's threesome? I think that's where your dog and the chewed up porn collection come into play. I was wondering what that yelping was.
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