Sunblast Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 This is from my response to someone, but I think it ought to be its own thread: I was on this other board for a while, and to paraphrase a terrific post, one of the legends said something like, "these boards are meant to discuss things like 'how do I get threesomes' and 'getting to simultaneous multiple orgasms.' Instead, it's 'she looked at me twice and then looked away, what do I do.' " People! Wake up! Are you that incompetent that you need a forum to know when to talk to a woman, or to a man, and when to call, and when not to, and to take basic risks until you figure it out, and how to lay your partners properly! (That applies to both sexes, by the way). Come on, LOOK at yourselves! Can you really wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and realize that your ancestors got laid and raised kids just fine for 40 unbroken generations, and then you are the one f'ck-up who can't figure out how to set up a date?! Are you KIDDING me!
Tripper Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 The blame lies with a generation of parents who raised the 30 something kids that are still living at home and still being wet nursed. Why are they still living at home?? From what I can see it's because there are little or no consequences to any of there actions... I grew up in a family that had one rule. "While under my roof, with your feet under my kitchen table you follow my rules". I left when I was 19 and made my own way in the world. Bottom line is I choose to ignore those posts and find threads that have more substance.
Trimmer Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 This is from my response to someone, but I think it ought to be its own thread: I was on this other board for a while, and to paraphrase a terrific post, one of the legends said something like, "these boards are meant to discuss things like 'how do I get threesomes' and 'getting to simultaneous multiple orgasms.' Instead, it's 'she looked at me twice and then looked away, what do I do.' " People! Wake up! Are you that incompetent that you need a forum to know when to talk to a woman, or to a man, and when to call, and when not to, and to take basic risks until you figure it out, and how to lay your partners properly! (That applies to both sexes, by the way). Come on, LOOK at yourselves! Can you really wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and realize that your ancestors got laid and raised kids just fine for 40 unbroken generations, and then you are the one f'ck-up who can't figure out how to set up a date?! Are you KIDDING me! ... if you're so agitated, so irritated, if you've got it all so perfectly figured out based on the genetic inheritance of the last 40 generations of your ancestors, why are you here? What is your question? What is your point? What is your contribution to this community? Are you being forced to participate here against your will through a prison work-furlough program or something?
aeren944 Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 In my opinion, there's no blame to be given out here. People come on these forums to learn and grow, and obtain advice, re-enforcement, and validation. People are trying to understand themselves and their situations. They are attempting to change their mistakes of "40 unbroken generations". The people on these forums, in my opinion, deserve any feedback they garner. If your post is about threesomes, then so be it. If your post is about whether a girl looked at you more than once, then so be it. Chances are, you're going to find at least one listening ear, and someone that will offer some sort of support or advice. ... Or, I guess you'll find a know-it-all type that thinks life's easy, and that other peoples' problems are invalid because the world revolves around them.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I was bought up that asking for help is better than sitting there struggling, whether it be work related, school, life. What is wrong with asking? I think you are being very harsh. Like OP says no one is forcing you to come here or read those posts, you should not invalidate these peoples problems, what might not seem like a big problem to you might feel like its the end of the world for the OP. Life is complicated, with no instruction manual only lifes experiences and others input to help guide us.
Star Gazer Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 OP, I'm assuming you're perfect and don't have any doubts or questions? Why are you here then? You seem to fit the stereotype of the man who'd rather go around and around and around in circles than stop and ask for directions. While I get extremely frustrated at many of the juvenile questions on this board - I do think, "WTF?" sometimes" - I still think it takes a bigger person to ask for help than to stubbornly think they can go it alone. Also, you're incorrect in that this forum is only for threesome advice and the like. Check out the title of every single forum and you'll see how very wrong you are.
crazy_grl Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I was on this other board for a while, and to paraphrase a terrific post, one of the legends said something like, "these boards are meant to discuss things like 'how do I get threesomes' and 'getting to simultaneous multiple orgasms.' To some people, these questions are just as dumb as the ones you're criticizing. I'd much rather answer those type of questions than ones about how to get laid.
Trialbyfire Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Common sense dictates that we should all be able to handle all of our problems by ourselves. OP, do tell us your problems and we'll ensure that we either ignore it or tell you to get some common sense.
homerunmama Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 You remind me of my ex-husband......he was perfect, therefore he was qualified to sit around and criticize in any way, shape or form, anything the rest of us did, said, or thought, whether or not he had any business in, or interest in, whatever it was.
Star Gazer Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Is this the very type of question that pisses you off, Sunblast?? I will present you with the most recent situation, about 10 minutes old, but I see this pattern happen over and over, maybe tens of times over the past few years. I see women very often being rude and disrespectful when absolutely uncalled for. Sometimes, when they're rude to me, I call them on it, not meanly but without backing down. I think most guys play it off or ignore it. When I call them on it, they get pissed off. If I call guys on being rude, etc, we somehow quickly rectify any problem. I thought women didn't want an ass-kisser, but if I point out their bull****, they act disinterested. To me, that's weird? QUESTION: Please explain where is my thinking wrong, and PLEASE explain the situation from an observer's perspective. Situation: I text/email with a local woman (Q) I met online but never in person. We exchange invitations but plans don't sync. We are on good terms. I tell her that last night my friend was relating a harrowing experience of hitting a couch on a motorcycle going 75mph, going airborne, and landing on his wheels - a miracle if there ever was one. The girl whom he told didn't buy it. I text Q "...but the dumb bitch thought he was lying." Q: Are you a mysoginist? Me: That's harsh; I'm not calling you a man-hating bull dyke, so be nice. Q has a cow. I ask if she realizes she's hypocritical, and she responds with "wow ok" etc.
Heavenly55 Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Because the only thing that matters in life is getting laid ..duh:rolleyes:. Please, these is so much more like say human nature, the art of attraction, why people do the things they do. I much rather read about that then some horn balls fantasy about a 3 some that will NEVER come true.
Heavenly55 Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Is this the very type of question that pisses you off, Sunblast?? Wow what a moron. The guy actually writes man hating dyke in a text to a woman:D..real smooth. This ranter is ranting and raving because his right hand has been his best friends for years.
SusanChess Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I have to ask "stupid questions" like that because I wasn't allowed to date until now by my religion and ancestral culture. Now that I'm away from both, I have no idea how these things work because I don't have the life experience most people do at my age. So sorry if my questions aren't good enough, but they are the questions I have. I wasn't aware that there was a certain experience level required to participate in this forum.
Author Sunblast Posted November 24, 2007 Author Posted November 24, 2007 Is this the very type of question that pisses you off, Sunblast?? LOL Star Gazer! You go! Good job, I had forgotten about posting that. Hehe funny to read it now.
Author Sunblast Posted November 24, 2007 Author Posted November 24, 2007 I much rather read about that then some horn balls fantasy about a 3 some that will NEVER come true. They come true a lot more frequently than you think.
Trimmer Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Throwing my hands up reading these posts... Well, might as well get some use out of this thread. Someone take his wallet while he's got his hands up...
Trialbyfire Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Well, might as well get some use out of this thread. Someone take his wallet while he's got his hands up... So we can set him up as a supporting member, therefore, support more bandwidth for more questions, which cause him to throw his hands up...wash, rinse and repeat.
Heavenly55 Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Well, might as well get some use out of this thread. Someone take his wallet while he's got his hands up... hahahahaa:lmao:
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 LOL Star Gazer! You go! Good job, I had forgotten about posting that. Hehe funny to read it now. You "forgot" about something you posted just a couple weeks ago? Good job at trying to cover for your extremely ironic hypocrisy though!
Lizzie60 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I can understand what the OP is saying... I have to admit that I do shake my head in disbelief when I read some of the threads/posts on here. Just unbelievable sometimes.
lindya Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 This is from my response to someone, but I think it ought to be its own thread: So your response was that good? I can't wait to read it. It's always good to be stimulated by some original, ground-breaking thoughts... I was on this other board for a while, and to paraphrase a terrific post, one of the legends... Oh dear. At least you have the honesty to admit to being the monkey rather than the organ grinder. Not to worry, Sunblast. We're here to support you....and if you feel it's time for you to become a more confident, assertive and decisive kind of man, then that's great. Even better if you could be the kind of man who has a discernable personality of his own, as opposed to being a bad copy of a passable copy of some Internet blogger. In return, you might want to ease up just a tad on the "my God I throw my hands up at the pathos of you all" demeanour.
scratch Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Oh dear. At least you have the honesty to admit to being the monkey rather than the organ grinder. Not to worry, Sunblast. We're here to support you....and if you feel it's time for you to become a more confident, assertive and decisive kind of man, then that's great. Even better if you could be the kind of man who has a discernible personality of his own, as opposed to being a bad copy of a passable copy of some Internet blogger. In return, you might want to ease up just a tad on the "my God I throw my hands up at the pathos of you all" demeanour. Goodness, Lindy, that was downright acerbic. I'm very disappointed in you. The problem with this misguided fellow is that his contempt of humanity is missing any hint of amusement. He dislikes women as people, which can be relatively fun, but instead of lightheartedly pointing out their idiosyncrasies, he just gets unpleasantly angry at how frustrating they can be. What's the point? It's like getting angry at my dog for chewing up my porn collection. Sunblast, learn to laugh at life. Generally speaking, the worse it is, the funnier it is. Everything on this board, with the exception of the abuse section (which the administrators are irresponsible for allowing here in the first place) is either boring, or funny. Example - you complaining how stupid all the problems here are is boring. Contemplating the possibility that a confident, suave gentleman such as yourself could garner a threesome, well, that's funny.
melodymatters Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Everything on this board, with the exception of the abuse section (which the administrators are irresponsible for allowing here in the first place). This might not be THE most helpful "safe place" a person experiencing abuse could turn to, but it's a start, and anyone who's been through it knows that baby steps are a start, and many people suffering abuse, might need to take those self same baby steps. Also, many of us have been there, and can give good and caring advice, as well as support to know that one isn't alone. I am surely not saying LS is better than a dometic violence shelter, but hopefully, we can help the people that need to be there, get there. Safely and with support. It's better than NOT reaching out at all.....
scratch Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 It's better than NOT reaching out at all..... That is a fair point, but there are a wealth of options provided by qualified, trained, experienced personnel. My point stems from an assumption that a poster would avail himself of those other options if the abuse forum was not available here. If you assume that he would keep it inside but for this forum, I would agree.
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