stilllooking Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I can't figure this one out. I started seeing this guy a few months ago. I'm a medical student and he's in his residency, so we're both pretty busy. We talked on the phone several times over the course of about a month, but we only went out twice (due to both of our crazy schedules). Anyway, I wasn't overly interested in him, but we were very sexually compatible. So, the second time we went out I gave into my desires and we had sex . Not my finest moment, but I wasn't very worried about that at the time. After we had sex, it was very awkward so I decided to just leave. On the way out to my car I kept thinking to myself that he doesn't want to hear from me ever again. So, I wasn't going to call him. A day later he called me and joking asked me if my finger broke or something because he was waiting for me to call. I kind of laughed and told him that I had been waiting for him to call me. We talked about the awkwardness that we both felt after sex, and he mentioned feeling like we had done something wrong because we hadn't known each other long enough and he wanted to be in love and in a relationship - because guys feel that way too. I assured him that I had no regrets and he did not have to feel like he took advantage of me or anything. After that, we talked for about 30 more minutes and had - what i felt like - was a good conversation. About 4 days later I called him and left a message on his phone saying that I just wanted to say hi, and he could give me a call later if he wanted. It's been a while now, since that phone call, and it's pretty obvious that I'm not going to hear from him again. It shouldn't matter since I wasn't overly interested in him anyway, but it seems that my stinking pride his hurt . Did I read this guy wrong on that last phone call? Was my instinct that he never wanted to hear from me again right, and did he just make that last call to be nice? Or is it more likely that something external happened to make him suddenly lose interest?
SuperFantastico Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 IT IS A STUPID QUESTION DIE DIE DIE!!!! Seriously though, sometimes you can have everything click in that special way but ....hmmm.....how do i put this... Ok here i got a better way to explain this. A cake. You can follow the directions perfectly, you can have all the right ingredients but if you dont mix them at the right time or cook it for long enough, it can still come out wrong. I think you both may have just jumped the gun before the comfort level was right. It made things weird and you both kinda freaked.....just him a little more. Nothing wrong with it. You just both got lost in the grey area of strangers-----X------Perfect for dating------------'just friends' The x is where you had 'the sex' Anyways, nobodys fault. Hope the sex was good, and you can both move on to have wonderful lives + some fun memories + a little bit of wisdom from the experience.
tashigirl Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Hmmm - if that was me I'd be puzzled too - why would he call you, and imply that he was waiting for you to call him, if he didn't like you? Maybe he felt that after you'd had sex that was that, and he didn't want a relationship. I don't understand it, but I suppose that is how men think. However, you say you didn't really like him anyway...the only reason you're thinking about it is because he has "rejected" (possibly) you - and that only makes him seem more attractive because now you can't have him! Just imagine how you'd feel if he was all over you - you wouldn't be interested at all, and you certainly wouldn't be wasting time thinking about him!
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