CrazyBrain Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I'm the other man. Let me start off by saying I was once engaged to this lady 12 years ago. We were both very young and separated to experience life. We kept in contact through the years as friends. I was in another state so no chance to reunite. I was heart broken when she told me she was getting married and dreamed of stealing her away at the wedding. Unfortunately I wasn't at the financial position I wanted to be at. Plus I thought she was happy. Well after 6 years out of state I moved home. Well we got together and sparks flew. We are madly in LOVE. After a few weeks her husband found out. Its been 4 months now. She had lived with me for a span of 6 weeks a weekend and a week. In that order. After the 6 weeks she said she had to go back to dissolve the marriage. She was gone for a month. I told her not to come back until it was over because I couldn't stand to see her leave. She came back to carve a pumpkin and hang out for a weekend. She was gone for a week and then came back. I asked her if it was for good she replied I believe so. After a week she told me needed to go back to go to family and work holidays event with him. She doesn't want to have to explain her situation at these events. And doesn't feel it appropriate to have me by her side until the divorce is finalized. She told me she needs her husband to understand that working out the marriage wont equate to happiness. She tells me she loves me she is just afraid of the change and is afraid to make the leap. She will be leaving a 8 year relationship with a guy who has done no wrong. She just has fallen out of love. She loves him but not like a lover like a friend. They had problems for over a year before i was even in the picture. Her family is against it and so is everyone else she talks to for the most part. She has not told the whole story to her husband and he is fighting hard to keep her. I try to be patient but this is going to kill me knowing she is with him during the holidays and still undecided? She says she has her mind made up just needs to get the courage. I need to know is she messing with my head? Should I just give her time? We are soul mates. There is no doubt in my mind she loves me.
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