Need womens 2 cents Will she leave?

[RamChops]

And if you fall for what she says, you'll fall for anything.

 

Forget this trifling chick and move on man, why are you wasting your time!?!?

 

Funnily enough Chrome, despite our previous differences I am looking for this sort of advice right now ... driving myself mental and I NEED to walk away ... just so frigging hard ... even have a lovely single girl interested in me but ... can't move forward with her while my heart/brain is elsewhere ...

 

Never thought I'd be looking for tough love ... NC won't work that well for me with MW in the short term as we're colleagues, at least CrazyBrain doesn't have to see his MW every day if goes down that path ... so hard ... only have so much leave I can take from work too ...

[CrazyBrain]

You know if this was just a married women I would probably walk away.

But She is not. We had a great relationship for 3 years. She went to college and I moved out of state. We were very much in love and had a hard time separating. Now this might sound stupid to some but its like we were meant to be together. For the first 20 years of our lives we had crossed path several times. We lived on the same street for a few years when I was 10-12. We never met. She would hang out at the same neighbor hood house I visited from time to time when we were 15 and 16 just missing each other on several occasions. This is when we both lived in different cities. During my 20's 40 miles from were we grew up I was a friend of friend of hers. Then I worked with her mom for a couple years. I chased after her mom for a while. I know it sounds gross but I didn't know she had a daughter but soon as she told me I knew I had to meet her. I did! And It was heaven for three years we lived together immediately. Now you may ask well if it was so perfect why didn't it last. She had a plan in life. Go to school get a degree ,career and get married and so on and so on. ( she did all three! thats what sux!)

My plan was a little different. I hate the state I live in. I did not and do not want to be here. I wanted to party have fun travel and experience what life had to offer and the thought of marriage HA!

I really enjoy my freedom and the thought of being in a commitment is not something I would take likely especially with a married person. In fact if it wasn't her I wouldn't be in this position. ( I feel married already)

Now I could be reading something thats not really a concern of hers but I have a history of dating younger women and a strong opposition to marriage. And when we were together when we were younger I teased her when she got old I would trade her in for a younger model. She is older then any woman I have ever dated. But it does not matter she still looks 19 to me. She is still smoking hot! When I saw her Mom was hot for an older lady I knew she would age well and was I right! I think she is so beautiful but I don't think she does or has felt beautiful for years and thats where her H messed up. People tell her that men get comfortable and stop paying compliments and doing nice things and the passion fades away. This is not the case for us. For three years we were connected at the hip. And still we just cant get enough! It is so much deeper than a physical attraction. Its unreal the connection we share. I think the fact that we both realize how special what we have is, it can only help us cherish each day. Like a second chance at life.

This girl says she loves me by name in her sleep.

I know I sound like a blubbering idiot. LOL

But honestly If this will help her husband deal with the D it will be time well spent.

If she leads me along through the holidays and then comes up with more excuses not only would I be devastated I would be highly shocked. Maybe I should ask for a non refundable emotional security deposit. Lets say 5000.00. LOL. I think that would help a little at least. Sounds fair. I kinda of like that. HMM is this viable?

I have no choice I LOVE her and can easily wait the next 5 weeks.

I'll let you know how it turns out!

 

And by the way Nadia. I know writing xmas cards sounds like a lame excuse. But she makes each card from scratch. And making cards is a big part of who she is. I know it might also sound lame but she makes them in her newly finished workshop (which I know she is hating giving up). I'm sure it would have other wise been a near impossible task to complete.

I sound whipped huh!

I guess I can smile inside knowing the LOVE we share.

 

I might be making excuses for her but she will also have to commute sometimes 3 hours a day 5 times a week compared to minutes now on a leased vehicle racking up the miles. Wake up at 5 am to go to work. Give up her two dogs plus disappointing friends and family. Start new. I'm sure that has to be scary with no guarantees it will work out.

Thanks again!