superam Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Hi guys, quick scenario, comments are welcome. Started going out with Lisa 2 years ago, she was'nt the type to have a steady b/f, but she asked me and we went for it. She's 33, i'm 44. Year went by, going well but she would'nt fully open up to me. Oct 06 split up, she says she want to date other guys, Nov06 back together, her call, my choice. Jan 07 split up again, same excuse. For the next 5 months i was i complete bits over it, i tried to do n/c, but i failed time and again. I finally accepted it and began moving on, was dating someone else, nothing serious. Then i get a text from Lisa asking to meet me. We had been in touch recently so it was'nt unuasal, but i was always me suggesting things. She really wants to get back together and start this fab life because she's realised i'm what she wants.I took a week to decide and finally went for it. Oct 07 she falls pregnant, i'm over the moon, she's really ill. Nov07 she has a termination and tells me it's over again. Now i'm really in love with this girl, but she's a very harsh woman and likes control. So tell me, am i a MUG, or am i being a bit harsh myself, bering in mind the fact she's just had a termination and has completly gone off sex and what goes with it. My heads spinning yet again, i'm GUTTED.
birdie Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 well I am 35 and not saying that being a similar age qualifies me for anything but I know that women in their 30s are usually more assertive, don't play games and tend to be more stable. she doesn't sound like she has any of these qualities to be honest. I think she has been treating you really badly and you shouldn't let her off. The baby was yours as well remember and still you are not behaving like she is. I don't know how you can possible envisage any kind of trusting relationship with her, maybe you should find out about yourself why you find her type of woman attractive. No offence but you are behaving a little bit like a doormat.
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