Heavenly55 Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 So I've been talking to this guy from the net for the past few weeks. I don't meet guys like this at all but unfortunately due to my lack of a social life these days I'm forced to, and no it's not from a dating site. So this guy seems nice, we've talked on the phone for hrs, have things in common but he was really eager to hang out right away. He also seems inexperienced with females so to speak. So he texts me non stop. and he'll also call on ocassion but more texting. I'm not a big texter and even if I was I text people when I acutally have something to say. Sometimes I respond to his messages and sometimes I don't. The first thing that pissed me off was his asking me to hang out last minute via a text. I responded that I had plans, it was last minute and if he wanted to set up a date to pick up the phone and call. I mean really I don't care what year it is, how popular texting is, if for all of a billion years guys had the decency to pick up the phone and ask someone out what makes him different. So he apologized and called me right after explaining that he's a big texter..right. So we set up plans a week ago to hang out tonight. So tonight comes and as usual I get a text saying oh are we still going to the movies. I responded call me later and let me know ttyl. Then he writes back what time should I call. Does he need to be told how to do everything? So I never responded back. I mean this is a man in his late 20s. Sorry for the rant but really. He also tried asking me to hang out with him on Wed bc he was going to be in my area. How convient. God forbid he gets in his car to drive to see someone, I mean guys still do that for a date no? I told him I had plans already. I know some women may be completely fine with this texting non stop when you hardly know someone but this is the first time I've encountered it and to me is shows immaturity on his part.
Krytie TV Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I'm with you girlfriend. Communication is a lost art.
Sunblast Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Texting's a bit immature as the main mode of communication, although many people of both sexes are guilty.
Phateless Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 He sounds really inexperienced and insecure. He probably just has no idea what to do with women. If you get involved with him he will get really attached and treat you like gold forever.
Sunblast Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Man, if he knew you were talking sh-t like this, he'd take you to the bike rack outside... /smile/. The guy is trying best he knows how and you're dissuading her from taking a chance at this budding romance. Maybe he'll grow more confident; I didn't start where I am now but got here over time, maybe it'll be the same with him.
thewholeshabangg Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 ohhhh i know the texting wayyy to well my dear. however! look at this, after you told him to pick up the phone and call, he did! most obsessive texters... would text. but this seems like a big thing with and for him, so either you talk to him about it or you take that immaturity as a complete turn off, which it seems you are doing. another thought.. but do you ever call him? maybe he doesn't want to seem too pushy with calling you every 3 seconds, so he textes you cause he wants to hear from you and was thinking about you.
birdie Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I'm with you Heavenly. I had similar experience with a texter recently. He didn't text too much but this was his choice of communication. Sometimes when he asked me something via text I would call him and reply to him properly over the phone but he would still initiate any conversation via text. He had major communication issues anyway and it just got all too much hard work in the end.
norajane Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 It's just as well. Since this is how he chooses to 'talk' with you, then you'd never be happy together. He's always going to be a texter. He'll try to make dates over text, break dates with you over text, try to 'discuss' serious issues over text, and he'll break up with you over text..or if you break up with him, he'll bet texting you until his fingers fall off trying to get you back.
huh Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 My guess is he just wanted to make sure the time was convenient to call you when he asked when to call. Some people text/e-mail because it's less intrusive than calling on the phone. I have a long commute by bus & so does this guy I'm sort of starting to see. We can't really talk at work, we're both often tired by the time we get to our respective homes, so commute time is a good time to talk. But neither of us wants to disturb the people around us or broadcast our business to the entire bus, so texting works for us.
Author Heavenly55 Posted November 24, 2007 Author Posted November 24, 2007 ohhhh i know the texting wayyy to well my dear. however! look at this, after you told him to pick up the phone and call, he did! most obsessive texters... would text. but this seems like a big thing with and for him, so either you talk to him about it or you take that immaturity as a complete turn off, which it seems you are doing. another thought.. but do you ever call him? maybe he doesn't want to seem too pushy with calling you every 3 seconds, so he textes you cause he wants to hear from you and was thinking about you. I don't usually call him so you could be right about that. I guess it's something on my part too with the texting, I mean I guess I could get use to it, in a really long time lol. But I never thought that may be the reason he is texting me so much..it's actually kinda cute. I mean besides this part he does seem like a genuinely nice guy.
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