CrystalTears Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Well I'm in a major jam and somedays I ready to walk away and somedays I want to stay. I've been seeing this MM for two years but the catch is that I was dating him before he got married! See my boyfriend at that time was going to the Army and we had made the choice to stay together. We called each other and wrote each other very often. Before my boyfriend at that time was coming home from being kicked out of the Army thats when he broke the news to me that he had gotten married and the woman that he married had given him herpes! All I remember was that I was trying to scream how could you and nothing would come out. Him and the young lady had gotten married for the money, he said the only reason that he told me he was now married was because she gave him herpes. The young woman knew she had it but never told him. I had spoken to the young woman thinking she didn't know that I was back home waiting for him, but turns out she knew all about me and I knew nothing about her. Now she's over seas fighting the war, and he lives with me and she knews about that, I really don't think he's going to Divorce her because he told me this statement one night " I don't want to be the bad guy anymore, so I going to wait and see which one of you leaves first, and I'll just have to stay with the one thats left". He told me that most likely he won't be married to her for the rest of his life because she's to cockey and she also wants kids and he doesn't. I'm to affraid to move on and leave because in the process of it all he has given me HPV, and now I feel like if I don't stay with this man I'll never have a chance of finding anyone else out here. I was there for him when he had nothing, I stood by his side and made sure that he was ok and asked God to walk with him day by day. Now all that I've done is in vain because the other woman has his hand in marriage and I don't! I was there "First" doesn't that count for anything?
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I don't understand why you continued seeing him once he got married! The guy is a big fat jerk and hasn't considered you at all! I am sorry that he gave you herpes, obviously their marriage wasn't just about money though, otherwise he wouldn't have had UNprotected sex with her in the first place. Talk to your Dr, get medication and learn about what you have and how to control it. DO NOT SETTLE to be with a big jerk like him because you're afraid that you won't find someone else in the future. To be honest, you're better off alone because he has no respect for you, let alone care about your health. If he did, he would have used a condom with her, but he didn't.
Author CrystalTears Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 He didn't give me Herpes, he gave me HPV, I thank God that he told me had been infected with Herpes. Him and his wife have it I don't.
Lizzie60 Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I can't believe this is true. If it is...then you need to dump this loser asap... If you don't ... well you deserve him...
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Well that's just great - keep touching this piece of filth and you'll have so many diseases you'll NEVER be able to date normally because no one will touch you. I'm sorry, but you're obviously too young to have learned the art of self respect. Stop putting yourself in harm's way by having relations with a guy whose got MULTIPLE STDs. Do you think that lowly of yourself that you're willing to get whatever diseases this pig has just to be with him? Respect yourself. Please.
PLAYBRAT Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 WOW..I had to take a bath after reading that post. Seriously...Lose this ZERO and find a HERO. This man is a self centered jerk. He'll stay with whoever doesn;t LEAVE HIM???? OMGGGGGGGG.... Yeah....so he's offering himself up to you as a consolation prize..... how NOBLE of him.. <gag!!!!>
Lyssa Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I really don't think he's going to Divorce her because he told me this statement one night " I don't want to be the bad guy anymore, so I going to wait and see which one of you leaves first, and I'll just have to stay with the one thats left". Unbelievable! He doesn't want to be the bad guy? Isn't he one already? He sounds like a complete idiot! Seriously...Lose this ZERO and find a HERO. This man is a self centered jerk. He'll stay with whoever doesn;t LEAVE HIM???? OMGGGGGGGG.... Yeah....so he's offering himself up to you as a consolation prize..... how NOBLE of him.. <gag!!!!> LOL - yes, lose this ZERO and find a HERO. Mann... love that line, Playbrat!!
torranceshipman Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 OMG what a complete loser - run, girl, run!!!!! There'll be loads of cute guys at college, date one of those who is single, sweet n has no diseases (lol) - seriously girl, get the hell away from him - he is hideous. Plus, what kind of man is so much of a coward that he waits for 'one to leave frst' so he doesnt have to deal with the situation himself! He need to man the hell up-who wants to date a spineless coward, seriously, thasts soooo not cool. You be the one to leave and get away from the whole hideous situation while you can..before you get more diseases, even lower self esteem after he walks over you some more, or an unplanned pregnancy or something... You've only got one life - go for the best you can every time in everything that you do! - that includes dating - and seriously girl, you are SCRAPING the barrel with this jerk.
GreenEyedLady Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I've been seeing this MM for two years but the catch is that I was dating him before he got married!...kicked out of the Army thats when he broke the news to me that he had gotten married and the woman that he married had given him herpes! The young woman knew she had it but never told him. "I don't want to be the bad guy anymore, so I going to wait and see which one of you leaves first, and I'll just have to stay with the one thats left". I'm to affraid to move on and leave because in the process of it all he has given me HPV, and now I feel like if I don't stay with this man I'll never have a chance of finding anyone else out here. Ok, number 1, kick his sorry a** out now...You are throwing your life down the drain... Now take a deep breath...Have you been treated for HPV? You need to read up on it...It is totally treatable and most times the virus runs it's course and you won't have any trouble with it in the future, including not passing it on...Google HPV and you'll find lots of resources and information... You need to get him out of your life...He is a poison...And if you're not careful, you're going to get herpes and that, while treatable, is something that you will live your whole life with... I'm sorry that you're going through this...Can you talk to your parents or a relative about this? You really need help here... (((HUGS)))
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