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I have been hanging out with this guy only on social occassions and i have posted before about him. I have come to the conclusion that it appears to be friends with benefits for him. However, I know that he does like me and i do like him but he has not asked me out on a date or anything. I feel like i am getting closer emotionally to him because we have a great time together. However, i can't help to think that i am only being used here. I feel bad because I know that i have to pursue other guys but he is always in the back of my mind. I am wondering if I should stop getting so close to him and treat him more like a friend. Platonic friendship. however he does make advances towards me such as touching and flirting. I don't want him to feel rejected and i don't want to lose him as a friend either.

he does not talk to me and i have not initiated contact

He does keep tabs on me through other people ( i dont get this)

does not talk on a daily basis or weekly one at that.

 

So i guess i can't really call him a friend either, since he doesn't seem to care.

 

I think he doesn't want to commit and just wants fun but like i said i don't want his fun to be at my expense.

 

How do i have him stop acting like i am with him and flirting and touching, i don't want to get hurt because it seems like this is where its going to end up

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I think you can do 1 of 2 things:

1 - ask him face to face - straight out - what his intentions are, then you'll be more informed

2 - make yourself unavailable to him and move on...if he misses you, he'll get in touch and do what needs to be done to get you back!

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Ok so i think if i ask him face to face it would be a bit much even though we have kissed, hung out, enjoyed our time together. He knows that i am waiting for him to say something to do something but he just won't and honestly i don't know why which makes me suspicious and it also makes me not trust him.

 

So i will go with number two..Does this mean i should lose all contact as in block him from online contact (like my screen name) even though he does not contact me. i have been thinking maybe i should do this. but not sure.

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