iceman200 Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I hope somebody can help me undersatnd.... We have been dateing for over two years now and never had any major issues. We looked at rings less than two weeks ago and I started the process. We have had a fairytale relationship and one night she becomes distant and tells me she wants a break. She tells me that she still loves me but wants to be sure saying that I am a wonderful bf. She belives the break will allow her to beter apreciate me and insure there are no issues in the future. I am now in a no contact situation and cant help but feel put off. When I asked about the ring she said she wanted me to continue. Somebody tell me this is normal or help me understand what is going on. I feel like i have been hit by a bus
4whatItsWorth Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Um...so you're telling me she's told you you're on a break, but still asks you to save up for a ring for her?? Now that's pretty evil... Usually when a girl says she wants a break, it means she is doubting the relationship or her feelings about it. Nothing good ever came from a break! ...but I could be wrong. Leave her alone for a while and let her sort herself out...but don't save up or buy her a ring as long as she won't committ to you!
honey001 Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Well marriage is a big commitment....... i think shes still evaluating whether she is really ready for this, i dont think its you i think its more her trying to find herself... give a bit of time, if she really loves you and wants this to work 'she will let you know'... good things come to those who wait.
Elyssa Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 It really sounds to me like she just needs some time to put things into perspective by herself. Sometimes it's hard to see things clearly when you're so close to them and now that you two are starting to look into rings and getting engaged, it's a good time to make sure the relationship is what each of you want it to be before it goes any further. I wouldn't worry at this point. Use the time away from her to do the same thing she's doing. Give her some time and when she comes back to you, you will know she's there to stay and, if you still want, you can buy that ring and put it on her finger. -E
birdie Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 are you absolutely sure you didn't see this coming?
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