torranceshipman Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Hi guys, I've only been on 5 dates with a great guy (so totally early days), and he told me when we met that he was going travelling soon - so it's been pointless getting serious - he's off v.v.soon for at least 3 months, maybe twice that - but we seem to have a great time in eachothers company...my question is, it seems perfectly logical to hold off on getting serious, but being a female with a crush (lol), do you think he was trying to be a bit of a player by keeping his (and my) distance from eachother, or is he just doing the sensible thing? When he comes back (if I'm single) I'd like to give the R a shot, and I get the feeling he would too, as we get on so well - but not sure of his motives...men are so hard to read! I guess I'm glad we didnt get too serious else I'd be a lot more miserable knowing he is going, so thats a good thing at least! Not a major drama I know (-; - but I'd be interested to know your thoughts!
Trialbyfire Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I don't think he's playing you, if he was upfront about traveling soon. In telling you, he gave you the opportunity to refuse his dates, due to concern. I think he's a sensible guy and if not, at minimum, someone who allowed you to make your own choices by providing you with disclosure. I like that.
Author torranceshipman Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 Thanks TrialbyFire, cool answer! In fact, I told him I didn't want to see him anymore after a couple of dates, as we couldnt get serious because of the distance, and was a bit of an ass to him, then I apologised and he asked me out to dinner and we had such a great evening (I figured I liked him so I wanted to see him a bit before he left). So I suppose with him being upfront in the first place - and being cool enough to see past my silly behaviour and have a lovely time together after that, he's quite a cool guy, all in all...nice to know, whatever happens in the future!
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