Krytie TV Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 ...dating someone whose apartment is down the hall from mine. I met a girl that lives a couple doors down from me a couple times while walking our dogs in the morning. Yesterday, we sat in the hallway of the building talking while the dogs played for what must have been about 30 minutes before she had to leave. I'm wanting to hear from people who say dating someone who is a close neighbor is a bad idea and why that would be.
Kamille Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Why woud you be looking for an argument against dating someone? Risk nothing and you'll get nothing. I've been getting the feeling lately, from your posts, that you're a warrior fighting in the battle of dating, complete with battle plans and attack strategies. It sounds like you're trying to exert too much control over every aspect of it. Just ask the girl out, have fun, see where it goes and if it doesn't work out, you'll deal with it -and whatever consequences- in due time. Live a little.
Trialbyfire Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Why woud you be looking for an argument against dating someone? Risk nothing and you'll get nothing. I've been getting the feeling lately, from your posts, that you're a warrior fighting in the battle of dating, complete with battle plans and attack strategies. It sounds like you're trying to exert too much control over every aspect of it. Just ask the girl out, have fun, see where it goes and if it doesn't work out, you'll deal with it -and whatever consequences- in due time. Live a little. Well said. I've dated a neighbor and found it to be a positive experience. He's a great guy. We're still in communication, in passing and phone.
Author Krytie TV Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 You misunderstand. I am going to ask her out, I was just wanting to hear from people that might have some warnings that I haven't considered, that's all. The thought of dating someone in such intense proximity is weird, but that doesn't mean I'm fighting it.
allina Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 When I first moved out to go to college I dated the guy who lived in the apartment right below mine. I was 18, he was 23, since I had just moved from home and didn't know a lot of people I became too dependent on him. He had just moved here from LS for work and didn't know many people so we became inseparable. He was my best friend and also took care of me in a lot of ways. While we were dating things were great and we loved living so close together. We would often spend the night together then run home to get ready for school/work. I loved dating my neighbor, that's until he punched my little 18 year old heart and told me that his ex was coming up in the next week and that they were getting back together and I told him ok and to never call me or come to my house again. I left for the weekend she was visiting to stay at a friends because I didn't want to see her/them. So yes, dating a neighbor = tricky, especially after things go sour. You will always know if she is home and she will know if you are home. If things take a nose dive you cant avoid each other and might have to deal with awkwardness when you run in to each other. With all that said I still say go for it, if you click with someone they're worth the risk of a little awkwardness, just make sure she isn't crazy, she knows where you live
Letranger Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Go ahead and ask her out. But if one of you turn into a stalker, you wont have to travel far.
IpAncA Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Go ahead and ask her out. But if one of you turn into a stalker, you wont have to travel far. That is true. I personally don't see anything wrong with you asking her out. But it sounds like you do OP.
Kamille Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 You misunderstand. I am going to ask her out, I was just wanting to hear from people that might have some warnings that I haven't considered, that's all. The thought of dating someone in such intense proximity is weird, but that doesn't mean I'm fighting it. So why must you consider all warnings and sides and aspect to it? It'll be what it'll be. Allina's dorm story reminds me: I dated two guys from my dorm back in the day and I am still friends with both of them. I even dated and fell in love with a roomate once. (My first boyfriend). He eventually decided to move out while we were still dating (he was going back to school and decided to live rent-free at his dad's) and that didn't even affect the relationship. I guess my point was you never know how things are going to turn out and no matter how many storied you hear about this, and how many warnings you get, your story with this girl will be unique. Fortunately.
Trimmer Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I guess my point was you never know how things are going to turn out and no matter how many storied you hear about this, and how many warnings you get, your story with this girl will be unique. Fortunately. Yay for this. No one has stepped up with any obvious red flags (don't date your married boss...) so stop your search for reasons to fail. There are no gurarantees, but go write your own unique story!
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Just go for it and worry about the other stuff later. Don't let little things like her living down the hall from you get in the way. Bottomline, you like her, she likes you. Do it. Call her and ask her to dinner. How's that?
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