Roger2323 Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Im 23 years old, never had a girlfriend since high school, and never really took the initiative to start a relationship. For some reason I have only been really attracted to a couple girls during college, and in both occassions I chickened out. Anyway a few years ago I met this cute girl for just a day, but we really hit it off, though she was dating my roommate at the time. The next year I moved far away for grad school. Two weeks ago the girl messaged me on facebook, about crashing at my place for a night since she was going to interview at the Med school in my university. Well anyway obviously I agreed and I picked her up from the airport. After her morning interview, we hung out for the rest of the day, and had a great time. She laughed at everything I said and we flirted a bunch. I'm not very good at talking about 'relationship' type stuff so although she would frequently bring up such subjects I would usually answer in humor or change the topic. When we met up with some of my friends later she explained how we met by saying something like "yeah we just met once before but we have lot in common.." But anyway I think she likes me, but obviously it wouldn't work unless she got in and ended up coming to the med school here or at least somewhere within a couple hours, so I didn't really do anything then. At my department, a 'nerdy' engineering department, there aren't many opportunities to meet anyone I would like, so I really don't want to mess up this opportunity. Most people would consider my friend 'hot' and I'm sure she gets propositions on a regular basis. I know from personal experience that even though she may like me now, theres no guarantee that she is going to resist all of them, as I guess the same would apply to me. At the same time she is going to move away for grad school to, so I think she wouldnt really be looking for something permanent until she finds out about med school. How should I proceed in terms of contacting her..calling, e-mail, messaging, etc, so that she stays interested.
littlekitty Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Ummm just call her, email her, or message her!! Start by letting her know you really enjoyed her company when she was staying with you. Ask her how it's going with getting into your university. Offer to help her if she get's in. It sounds like you built up a good raport already so it should be easy and comfortable to stay in contact. There's no magic way to keep her interested. Just stay in her life and see what happens!!
Lovegod Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I'm not very good at talking about 'relationship' type stuff so although she would frequently bring up such subjects I would usually answer in humor or change the topic. Believe it or not, that's the best way to handle it. So, you're doing fine The only thing I would suggest adding into your conversations is some non-sexual touching. Grab her hand and examine her fingernails, play with her dangly earrings, hug her, pat her on the head when she did something good, move her hair out of her face and tuck it behind her ear, basically anything to get your hands on her. You need to break that sexual barrier before you can proceed with the first kiss, the first lay, etc.
Author Roger2323 Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 yeah thats gonna be difficult for me...not a touchy-feelly type
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