dancinggal Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Hi, I've been with my guy for a year and a half, and I think he's becoming too comfortable with me. He's very sweet, but I don't think he feels the need to make effort for me. I know he was very nice to his exs, and he did make a lot effort when we first started dating, and its been kind of down now for, like, half a year. I don't think he even looks at me much when I'm all dressed up and when I think I look hot or when I take my clothes off. I know he loves me, I just wish I could find a way to make our relationship fun and exciting again like it used to be. Help!
Trialbyfire Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 All relationships settle down after awhile. Having said that, you two need to shake it up a little. At the risk of being too invasive, how's your sex life? Is it spontaneous or is it always the same?
Author dancinggal Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 Its pretty much the same always. I am always on top. He loves having me ontop, which is great because I love it too, but i have talked to him changing it around and trying new stuff, and I (stupidly) used the word boring which really offended him. Apparently, he thought the sex was fantastic, lol.
Trialbyfire Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Time to shake up location, spontaneity, positions, clothing/lack of clothing, aggressor...everything. It sounds like he's kind of lazy about sex. You'll have to find ways to...motivate...him. Tease and entice sometimes, get dominant and aggressive, other times. The more you mix it up, the more he'll enjoy it and not take it for granted that it's simply a way to get his rocks off.
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