asilisa Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Hello Everyone I hope all that celebrate Thanksgiving had a wonderful day! Well, my ex did text today but I didn't hear my phone till about an hour after he sent his first text he sent another and I heard my phone this time. When I opened my phone his first text said "happy thanksgivin to you and yours." The second one said "So u just ignore me now?" Well, this really made me angry but I'm glad I didn't respond in anger. Instead I just said "Have a nice thanksgiving." About an hour after I sent that he sent me another text " I guess the lack of reply is a yes?" and I sent him a text that said "I said have a nice thanksgiving." I think he was trying to get me into a conversation about it and I wasn't getting into it. It's like we don't go out anymore so why are you sending me nasty text messages. You have no right to be angry with me for ignoring you...you broke up with me! Well about an hour after the last text he called me. The amazing thing is my stomach didn't get in knots even though it was the first time I heard from him in about 3 weeks. I was just annoyed that he was calling cause I knew it was to b**ch and he was. First thing he says "Why you ignoring me?" I just said I'm not I sent you two text messages. And he was like "But you only give me one word answers." I just said "I don't know." Then he asks "Where you at?" I swear he is so weird. But the way he acted today just reminded me of what a jerk he can be. Who acts like this? Just wanted to vent alittle I guess.
MattyTee Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 It's always good to vent From reading around on the boards I've noticed this thing occur a few times. It seems when someone is finally feeling better and able to move forwards with their lives - suddenly the other person (the dumper) can't handle it. There seems to be some belief that we should all be wallowing in abject misery for the rest of our days. Don't get sucked in to it Asilisa, although it seems you handled it very well anyway. As you say it's really none of his business any more. Keep your power
Author asilisa Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 I can always count on you for a response! Thanks. I do think I dealt with the whole thing pretty well. The whole situation just reminded me of how crazy he could be when we were going out. It's funny how he thinks it can carry over once we are broken up. Like I dont have a right to ignore him if I wanted? I guess he feels like he is losing his control and you know what? He is. I was always running back begging that he let me return...I'm not doing it. Thanks again Matty. I hope you are doing great.
MattyTee Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 No problem Asilisa, it's nice to have something to do at this late hour! I am doing okay, I've had a rough few days. My ex made contact on Monday and then again on Wednesday. Oddly enough it was not horrible at all - really beautiful and honest words. It made it 100 times harder because this was the woman I remembered and love so dearly! Still, I've gone through the process and I shall treat what she says as a wonderful goodbye. I have been doing NC (oh the delights) for three weeks or so now and really felt better - perhaps there really is something in that old idea that they contact once you are doing okay I am not following any regimes any more, I'm doing my own thing - the break and also guidance on here has given me a great deal of personal power and confidence. I have written her a lovely email thanking her for her goodbye and I am still going on my journey, still doing it alone She knows that if anything changes for her she can contact me - I will leave it at that. Right now, I'm not ready for her or anyone else - this is about me! I'm glad you have found some power A, it's good
Author asilisa Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 I'm glad to hear you are doing well. And you too are finding power. It feels good to know that I'll be OK and one day the thought of him won't bother me so much. Like I said I'm glad he could take time to remind me what a jerk he can be. Makes the healing go a little faster. Keep looking out for yourself
sedgwick Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 what does he mean, one-word answers? neither of the answers you gave him were one word!
Author asilisa Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 Well he has previously sent me messages and I just answered him "K". He means that he isn't in control and I'm not falling all over him and he doesn't like it! Thats what he means.
MattyTee Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I'm feeling used and abused today Asilisa - a similar thing going on with my ex. Ah well, I'll take a deep breath and blah blah. Hope you are doing okay.
Author asilisa Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 Sorry to hear you feel this way. I am feeling alittle down myself. It just sucks to invest so much time in someone who didn't deserve it. I doubt anyone has told him he could do better...but that's all I hear. I know I can but why did I waste so much time? I know I know it was a learning experience, but I could have learned the same thing in less time It doesn't hurt as bad... its just a lonely place to be. Well, Matty keep your head up it'll get better.
MattyTee Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Heya, I hear you. I'm sure things will be better again soon. I'm venting on my blog now - fingers are slightly sore I hope you feel better soon!
Rowen Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 My ex does this too.. i found out she moved in with a new guy yesterday (two months after our breakup) and shes wondering why im not responding to her.. DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH:sick:
MattyTee Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Well, we just have to accept that they are all very silly people
Author asilisa Posted November 24, 2007 Author Posted November 24, 2007 I wonder why you aren't responding to her? Are these people serious? I made it clear to my ex numerous times I didn't want to be his friend...not sure what part he doesn't get. People are amazing I swear.
MattyTee Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Perhaps we should all send each others ex's some emails
Author asilisa Posted November 24, 2007 Author Posted November 24, 2007 That really made me laugh, thanks.
MattyTee Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 Sometimes that's all we have left, a little chuckle!
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