florock Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 ok i was going out with my ex for 11 months when he dicided he needed to brake up with me.. he told me he wanted to be just friend.. im the only one he has close by im his friend, family, and just someone who he can talk, trust, and be with.. when i told him i was tierd of the situation and it was either we were together or stop seeign each other... he told me not to leave him that he wasnt seeing anyone else. he only needed time to be off a relationship. his always with me 24/7 he calls me on his lunch and brake he spends sat and sun with me and when his not working his with me.. i mean we actually look like a couple were always together we need each other for everything but he doesnt want to be with me he wount even kiss me.... we get along fine he has me on his insurance as his wife, he told his boss i was his wife, some family of his think we are together because he wount tell them we broke up a long time ago... but then to me he tells me were not and that he wants to be alone.. its hard for me to love and cant have.. i started speaking to a guy and he got jealous.. i dont know what it is that he feels for me...HELP!!!!
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 He has commitment issues and may like to fantasize. He also seems to be self-centered or selfish. How old are you and he? Also, remember: jealousy is not the detection of how much someone cares for you, it's a detection that their are insecurities within that person (a selfish dilemma).
Lauriebell82 Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Sounds like he likes the idea of a relationship, but doesn't like the committment of one. Its messed up that he tells people your his wife. Next time he does that, I think you should say "Actually I'm not his wife, we aren't even dating. This guy sounds like an idiot who doesn't know what he wants. I think you should just stop talking to him or having contact with him. Because right now you are still giving him everything he needs in a gf without actualyl being one..you realize how stupid that is right? Tell him, that you don't want to see him anyone since he says he wants to be alone. If thats what he wants, then give it to him. He sounds really stupid to me, I think you'd actually be better off without him. Move on, and find a bf who won't want to be without you.
Author florock Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 He has commitment issues and may like to fantasize. He also seems to be self-centered or selfish. How old are you and he? Also, remember: jealousy is not the detection of how much someone cares for you, it's a detection that their are insecurities within that person (a selfish dilemma). IM 20 YEARS OLD AND HIS 24 YEARS OLD... IN FEB OF 2008 ILL BE 21 AND ON MARCH OF 2008 HILL BE 25... AT FIRST WHEN WE WERE GOING OUT I ADMIT THAT WE WERE GOING PRETTY FAST ... EVERYTHING JUST HAPPEN AND WE WERE ACTUALLY THINKING OF MERRIAGE, BUT WE BOTH DID NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED AT YOUNG AGE... WE WERENT READY EVENTHOUGH EVERYTHING ELSE SEEMED LIKE IF WE WERE.. I GUESS WE BOTH GOT KIND OF SCARE OF THAT BECAUSE IT WASNT IN BOTH OF OUR PLANS AT THIS AGE.. WELL AT LEAST I WASNT I ALWAYS SAID I WANTED TO GET MARRY AFTER I HAD ENJOYED LIFE..HE TOLD ME ONCE HE FELT HE WASNT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME BECAUSE I AM GOING TO SCHOOL AND HE ONLY WORKS HE WANTS TO GO TO SCHOOL BUT HE HAS BILLS TO PAY.. WHEN HE TURNED 24 HE FELT SO DEPRESSED THAT HE DIDNT HAVE SOMETHING GOOD TO FALL BACK INTO.. LIKE A CAREER HE IS JUST SO UNSTABLE BACK THEN... BUT NOW WITH MY HELP HE HAD BEEN GETTING BETTER, AND IS PLANING TO START SCHOOL ON FEB...
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