Dagny Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 So met someone, have a first date, it all goes well and ends at 3 am. Talk online every night till 2 am. Go on second date a week later. Guy disappears. Writes e-mail that he is really busy, sporadic e-mails in btw, noticeable die down. The week after: Guy writes and says things have been terrible, he will be free saturday evening, but does not try to make a date..or anything. I think..maybe I should not have given him the sweet with an insect in it as a gag so much for that. Thought i would just note down my dismal dating life for noone's reading pleasure.
Trialbyfire Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 I think..maybe I should not have given him the sweet with an insect in it as a gag Perhaps not, especially if he ate it. You could invite him over for a home-cooked meal and see how he reacts.
Author Dagny Posted November 22, 2007 Author Posted November 22, 2007 yeah. thing is, i don't really think he's busy. i just think he lost interest.
Trialbyfire Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 I'm teasing. It does suck when things don't work out. While you've probably heard this a million times, better now than later, after you've invested more time and emotion.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Why don't guys just say, "I enjoyed the evening, but I'm not into you or I'm not feeling anything and do not want to pursue this." How hard can that be? No, they do the I'll call you and then never do..... what fags.
Trialbyfire Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Well, no. Not very courteous. How about "Thanks for a fun evening. Take care of yourself."? This way, you don't lead someone on.
Author Dagny Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 Awww shucks...c'mon now, now I'm crushed. Maybe he really is very very busy!! Maybe pigs also fly. Well, personally, I would find it very hard to tell someone, thanks for the time but no this is not working out. So I've definitely acted evasive in the past. What sucks is when it goes swimmingly well..and then nothing. Then you start second guessing yourself. e.g. (1) Did I have bad table manners? (2) Maybe I was not wearing something sexy enough (3) Maybe because I gave him a gag gift with an insect in it (4) Maybe I chose a resturant where you ate with your hands =p I think instead of this I'll go off and think I'm fabulous and think optimistically how there are 3 billion more men in the world Happy turkey day.
jerbear Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Awww shucks...c'mon now, now I'm crushed. Maybe he really is very very busy!! Maybe pigs also fly. Well, personally, I would find it very hard to tell someone, thanks for the time but no this is not working out. So I've definitely acted evasive in the past. What sucks is when it goes swimmingly well..and then nothing. Then you start second guessing yourself. e.g. (1) Did I have bad table manners? (2) Maybe I was not wearing something sexy enough (3) Maybe because I gave him a gag gift with an insect in it (4) Maybe I chose a resturant where you ate with your hands =p I think instead of this I'll go off and think I'm fabulous and think optimistically how there are 3 billion more men in the world Happy turkey day. At least it is not season, it is turkey season. I think it was #5: Spinach from your salad that got stuck between your teeth. The insect is kinda strange if the guy is a serious financial or accounting type. Depending on what he does, I personally think he is somewhat busy, lost interests, and potentially is dating someone else. Or using being busy to distract himself.
Author Dagny Posted November 25, 2007 Author Posted November 25, 2007 I thought I'll wrap this post up. He finally got in contact,apologized profusely, and as it turns out..he really was busy driving people around in the mountains so we're going to go play board games together. i guess the gag gift was not that scary after all
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