Author optimusprime Posted November 22, 2007 Author Posted November 22, 2007 I would date minority women, but there are none (except for Asians) at the grad school I'm at. Honestly, if I could create a world where white men and white women would stick to their own kind, I would happily give up WW for Latina, African, mixed, and Asian women. In a heartbeat. It would be nice if white guys could just stick to their own. When WW aren't willing to be open-minded but WM are willing to date anything, it creates a dating imbalance for minority men. Racquel, just raise your children to stick to their own. And to white men, please just stick to your own.
Racquel Colette Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 No, I won't raise my white children to stick to their own. I personally am just not attracted and don't want to make things harder on my children and their identity.
CD111 Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 OP, maybe the answer lies in the fact that there is an imbalance between the amount of professional men and women in general. Even though more and more women are becoming professional within the fields you suggested, there is still a percentage gap, more men then women. So, that fact in it's self makes the dating game much harder for a man who wants to date/marry a professional woman. To make things even worse, out of all professional women the majority are white and may prefer not to date minority men in general or certain minorities. Not saying that's fair or correct, but that's just the way it is. You will eventually find the right girl, it will just take some time. Even though I wouldn't have believe this even a few years ago, but it seems to me like the more a person is educated the harder it is for them to date, especially if you are trying to find a partner who is your equal.
CD111 Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 Personally, dating wise, I am not against dating minority men at all. I am more concerned about cultural differences pertaining to what is traditionally expected of men and women within a certain culture and whether my direction in life will mesh with my potential partners. However, I will say there are some ethnic/racial groups that I am just not attracted to. For example, Asians, don't know why, just not attracted to them.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I'm a black guy and I admit when I was younger it was never an option for dating white women. I mean most of them I knew were skinny and had no ass. lol. They was nice and all but it didnt hit me until I started working at JFK. I mean I kept seeing all those pretty stewardesses in their tight dresses and nice bodies and I just couldnt stop thinking about them. And I started to pay more attention to white women. I find them attractive. Now more than ever. I prefer a black or spanish woman to take home to momma and marry and whatnot but if I happen to meet a white woman and we hit it off, I aint gonna back down from it, just because I'm worried if my kids are gonna be teased about having a white momma. lol. There are so many other things in the world to be worried about other than bi-racial children. In NYC it's one big melting pot anyone could care less about who's parental lineage is what. It might happen to you one day RC, never say never. At the end of the day when it boils down to it. A man is a man and a woman is a woman.
bish Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 For those minority men who are professionals (doctors, engineers, lawyers, professors, successful businessmen, etc.), would you say it is extremely hard to get a white woman of equal status? At this point in their career, men are probably looking for marriage or at least a long-term relationship. However, while WW (of all classes) are very willing to sleep with or date minority men, I would say a small minority of professional WW in the U.S. are willing to marry men of color. It's kind of ironic--despite the extensive education of professionals, the independent thinking that comes with greater education, and the maturity that comes with age many professional WW seem to prefer WM. In fact, I would argue that it would be easier for a successful minority male to get a lower class WW than it is for him to get a professional WW, since the money factor comes into play with the lower class WW. I hate this BS. All the time you see very well educated Asian women, Black women, Latina women, and other women of color throwing themselves to WM. In fact, many times you see professional women of color marrying lower class WM. But men of color are limited in their options. I'm looking at graduate school, and I am getting somewhat worried about being able to meet a WW in medical/law/business school. Perhaps I need to go to Europe. I'd appreciate responses from professional minority men or women on this issue. Is there a reason why you just have to have a white woman? You don't like black women?
bish Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I see no difference in the colour of the skin... I actually prefer black men. that means you DO see the difference in the colour of the skin...DUH!
bish Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 As George Costanza says, "I really don't think we are suppose to be talking about this"
bish Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I would date minority women, but there are none (except for Asians) at the grad school I'm at. Honestly, if I could create a world where white men and white women would stick to their own kind, I would happily give up WW for Latina, African, mixed, and Asian women. In a heartbeat. It would be nice if white guys could just stick to their own. When WW aren't willing to be open-minded but WM are willing to date anything, it creates a dating imbalance for minority men. Racquel, just raise your children to stick to their own. And to white men, please just stick to your own. Ah...so now we get down to the meat and potatoes of the matter....you want to date white women...but want white men to stick to "their own". Is there anything else you want to reveal about yourself?
Author optimusprime Posted November 23, 2007 Author Posted November 23, 2007 Ah...so now we get down to the meat and potatoes of the matter....you want to date white women...but want white men to stick to "their own". Is there anything else you want to reveal about yourself? Bro, there are no minority women where I'm at except for Asians, and I would go for the Asians, but the better ones seem to be extremely white-washed. In addition, there is hyper-competition from white guys for them. Have you ever seen a Middle Eastern or Latino guy with an Asian female? I would happily date Latina, Arab, African, or Asian women if there were any here. If I did not have to deal with competition from white men for minority women, I would happily limit myself to minority women. In fact, I prefer Latina women, but there are none here.
Lizzie60 Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 you should move to Canada... we love men of all ethnicities... I personally love latinos...
bish Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 you should move to Canada... we love men of all ethnicities... I personally love latinos... ya...but optimus isn't married Lizzie.
Racquel Colette Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Ok, I MIGHT date a Latino, as long as he had a college degree and didn't smoke. I really don't consider them "minorities" though.
Sunblast Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Naturally, you see the same things repeated time and again. Just about every forum, every discussion in America has the same people and the same argument. You have a complaining Negro or Hispanic whom the White establishment hates and who is fighting uphill (in the snow) through adversity. You have his supporters. And you have several Whites calling bull****. The arguments are always the same. Complaining Negro: People are racist, I am fixated on f-cking White women [no one wonders why....?] and those of them who don't like it evil racists, together with White women who don't want me - they're also evil, racist, ignorant [of what?], low-class, rednecks, and hicks. Complaining Negro's supporters: basically parrot the same arguments. White posters: call a spade a spade (no pun). For one, the notion of racism in America is misguided: it lumps racial identity (positive) and racial hatred (possibly negative) into one; for another, many if not most Whites are perfectly happy with themselves, aren't brainwashed, and to varying extents want to be separate from other races, especially in sex and children. No kidding. This is the most basic, common and natural human position with respect to sex and children. It is practiced the world over as natural. Only in America and parts of Europe is it ridiculed by a degenerate but vocal minority as wrong. And on it goes. Same predictable argument. And same predictable conflict. With only ONE possible resolution. Guess which.
Sunblast Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 By the way, whomever is on this thread with any intelligence, I advise against debating optimus prime. Number one, it's a troll, because he has 4 posts. Number two, give me a break, optimus prime? And number three, he is -truly- hateful and racist -- unlike Whites like RC whom you people libel -- so why deal with his bile?
vivrantflo Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I can not believe that this is a topic in the year 2007! It's incredible! My opinion.. it's all about preference.. In my case, I am attracted to European, and mulatto women.. I have the greatest weakness for Italian women its not even funny! lol.. If there is a certain race that you're attracted to, then so be it. Just because you're not attracted to a certain race, it doesnt make you racist. I'm not attracted to Asian women whatsoever.. but that doesnt mean I won't have Asian friends, or belittle others that love them off! It all boils down to preference.. I know white women that dislike white men.. Asian men, that don't want asian women.. black women that resent the hell out of black men.. people just have their own preference, and that's what makes the world exciting.. diversity, difference in opinion, and preference.. come on, it's 2007 not 1962
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 I can not believe that this is a topic in the year 2007! It's incredible! My opinion.. it's all about preference.. In my case, I am attracted to European, and mulatto women.. I have the greatest weakness for Italian women its not even funny! lol.. If there is a certain race that you're attracted to, then so be it. Just because you're not attracted to a certain race, it doesnt make you racist. I'm not attracted to Asian women whatsoever.. but that doesnt mean I won't have Asian friends, or belittle others that love them off! It all boils down to preference.. I know white women that dislike white men.. Asian men, that don't want asian women.. black women that resent the hell out of black men.. people just have their own preference, and that's what makes the world exciting.. diversity, difference in opinion, and preference.. come on, it's 2007 not 1962 LMAO, preach brother! Some of the things you said does ring true.
bish Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 So? Married or not... who cares? Uh...you do...you have already told this forum that you prefer married men
Ocean-Blue Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I'm a female in post-grad school and a minority. I'd have to agree that the pool of potential mates is quite slim if you are looking to date people of various ethnicities (if you are in med/law/etc school in North America). I know in the United States there are certain quotas, etc that ensure a certain percentage of the class be a certain race, etc. In Canada, this is not the case - so it's easy to find yourself in a class full of white students. In fact, there is not one single black student in my year. 90% of my class is white. I have no desire to date any of them. Sure I find some of them attractive, but personally, I like to date men who can speak several languages (and these guys, generally speaking, can't). I've been attracted to guys from all walks of life (in terms of race and ethnicity) BUT I have never dated someone outside of my race/ethnicity. I find this phenomena of a non-white professional male chasing after WM an interesting one. It makes me wonder what its all about. Is the WM the ultimate trophy for these guys? Is she the holy grail of masculine achievement? I don't think so. I have enough guy friends who don't buy into this to know that it's just a matter of preference. Just like I like my men darker, some men like their women lighter.
spookie Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 OP, perhaps you're turning women off with your insecurities regarding your ethnicity? Cause, physically, you sound perfectly attractive to me but after reading your posts I wuoldn't wanna date you... I don't like your fixation on race, even if YOU don't discriminate and you're only fixating on your own. People want what they want and you have no chance of changing that. So focus on who you are and date women you click with instead of obsessing about what percentage of WW will like you based on your origin. That said, I'm a WW student and I'm attracted to intelligence and personality, not skin color. I like kind, clever eyes, strong jaws, and I prefer someone bigger (not necessarily taller but heavier and stronger), with nice arms but that's about all I look for physically and ethnicity has nothing to do with it. he's attractive and he makes you wet, treats you good, lays good pipe and loves you? That's what I want. BTW Chrome I love your posts . They're so real, down to earth, yet some of the most insightful and logical.
jerbear Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I find this phenomena of a non-white professional male chasing after WM an interesting one. It makes me wonder what its all about. Is the WM the ultimate trophy for these guys? Is she the holy grail of masculine achievement? I don't think so. I have enough guy friends who don't buy into this to know that it's just a matter of preference. Just like I like my men darker, some men like their women lighter. Under the colonialization, there european powers made a system that favors them. Think core and periphery, not much has changed just that compound interests and commerce has taken over colonialism. Fast forward to post-industrialization, marketing took over as dictating beauty with ads defining fair skinned stick figures as beautiful. Add in education, learning history, sitting in class with them, working with "them", one's views gets changed and molded. I do think it is preference but it too has been molded over time. Like elbows off the table, not using bread as a napkin, white picket fence in the burbs, diamon rings are a requirement, 3 months salary as a requirement; these traditions take time and marketing. I personally prefer professional WW but have pursued others, latinas, mixed-races, and my own. Just a different mentality or preferences.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 OP, perhaps you're turning women off with your insecurities regarding your ethnicity? Cause, physically, you sound perfectly attractive to me but after reading your posts I wuoldn't wanna date you... I don't like your fixation on race, even if YOU don't discriminate and you're only fixating on your own. People want what they want and you have no chance of changing that. So focus on who you are and date women you click with instead of obsessing about what percentage of WW will like you based on your origin. That said, I'm a WW student and I'm attracted to intelligence and personality, not skin color. I like kind, clever eyes, strong jaws, and I prefer someone bigger (not necessarily taller but heavier and stronger), with nice arms but that's about all I look for physically and ethnicity has nothing to do with it. That's what I want. BTW Chrome I love your posts . They're so real, down to earth, yet some of the most insightful and logical. Wow, thanks spookie. It feels good to be appreciated. :cool: I just try to be real and speak to people, like I would speak to my friends. S*** you made me blush. lol.
sb129 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Wow, thanks spookie. It feels good to be appreciated. :cool: I just try to be real and speak to people, like I would speak to my friends. S*** you made me blush. lol. I have always loved your posts too Chrome Barracuda. They are fresh, honest, and real. Keep it up! It seems to me that the OP seems to view PWW as some sort of goal he has set himself. Such goals can often get in the way of finding someone who is truly compatible with you.
lino Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 And to white men, please just stick to your own. This will get you very far
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