amethystshamrock Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 OK so I have been with my gf officially since August. For some reason I get really jealous for the dumbest reasons. Like if she is texting certain people or on the phone with certain people. Whenever we hang out she is always texting someone else but if I'm not with her she doesn't text me..and that bothers me. I also get really angry when other people flirt with her or anything like that. I trust her not to do anything but she is the type of girl that remains friend with her ex's and people she used to hook up with. I'm really insecure and don't trust those other girls. I just need a way to stop this insane feeling that comes over me and control my anger. Does anyone else ever get like this?
sperlj Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 Your jealous because you care for this person and you fear of losing her. I get like this a lot. It got to a point where I was obsessed with these thoughts and always worried. Trust is sometimes a hard thing to do and it has to be earned. You're not insane. Ask her who she's texting all the time when she's with you ans ask what it's about. You may get some stupid answer or she may become defensive about it. Tell her you like to spend your time with her and not have to watch her text people. Start texting her more often to see if she replies or gets annoyed with you bugging her too much.
OD3 Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 Yep. Im even worse than you are about this I think. Ive been with my GF since July and we love each other very much. She is a very social person with many friends and I get very jealous when she is out having fun and I cant be there. RIght now she is in another country, and I am only seeing her in 3 weeks. So anything could be happening there. I worry everday because I really love this girl. The difference is she has NO idea I get jealous. I play it cool, even though deep down I worry so much. I dont want her to think I am jealous because that could drive her away. I dont have an answer really because I have been cheated on in the past and it broke me down to nothing (many months to recover) and I know **** happens...
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 Make it a game with her one night..... Say to her, "Hey, got an idea. Let's put all the electronic gadgets away (cell phones, etc) and just do ______________ (whatever). No one but us. Whatdoya say?" If she accepts, make it a great evening and then talk to her about how great "without these devices" have been and that you loved having her all to yourself. (Like having your own dessert or ice cream cone). This is a subtle approach, but may give you the payout that you are looking for. Good luck
Author amethystshamrock Posted November 22, 2007 Author Posted November 22, 2007 Thanks for the feedback. I do lover her very much and we are going through somewhat of a tough time right now (I have another post about it) so it's just making the jealousy worse. But I try not to let her know cause it will make her mad. But sometimes I slip and say something. I think the main thing is that I haven't felt like this for anyone in a while and I am so afriad of losing her. But I want to be able to relax and not stress it so much
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