Msblueyes Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I had basically made plans to have dinner with another friend of mine and his friends for Thanksgiving. I asked my (x)boyfriend what he was doing. Someone in the house where he's staying is cooking. He didn't quite ask me over but said he'd like to get together and do something. My friend & his housemate have already "invited" me for turkey tomorrow at 3. Would it be a better idea to eat & visit and make plans in the evening with my (x)boyfriend instead. I'm thinking that might relieve any pressure that might be in the air....? I was thinking maybe we'd see a movie. I think it's important, as others have said, to let him miss me. It's been exactly 31 days now....and he has said that he sees us together in the future. After some more reading on the site, it definitely appears that he has a number of issues, work, drug addiction, irresponsibility, wanting to be on his own & not living with me...that only he can conquor, seeing if he can live on his own...so I'm trying to comply with that...I don't think he wants to lose me & we haven't talked about us and I don't even want to push that button.... How should I handle tomorrow? He asked me to call him after work tonight.
niceguy27 Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 If you think you have had enough time to keep it platonic then do it. I think when people take advantage of situations is when it gets bad. Like when the ex wants to constantly keep in touch over the littlest things. If you let them completely be alone, like you have with your ex, I dont think its that bad if you keep in touch here and there. Its when they basically "use" you as a crutch when they start to have any little problem is when its unhealthy. Case in point...My ex and I dont hang out or talk regularly but recently she experienced a very deep and personal issue. She had nobody to turn to and reached out to me to share it with me. I was there for her and will support her through this to some extent. So the occasional hanging out or keeping in touch is fine I think. But that is just my .02 and each situation is different. If things ended badly then I would avoid it completely. If they ended amicably like us, then there is no reason to just flush them down the toilet. Good luck!
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