KATGRL Posted May 26, 2003 Posted May 26, 2003 HI EVERYONE! THIS IS MY FIRST TIME HERE AND I SURE AM GLAD I FOUND THIS PLACE. MAYBE SOMEONE CAN HELP ME. HERE GOES! I AM IN A 3 YR RELATIONSHIP THAT I WANT TO END AND CAN'T SEEM TO FIND THE GUTS TO DO IT. MY B-FRIEND DIDN'T HAVE A JOB UNTIL ABOUT A MONTH AGO AND DIDN'T FINISH HIGH SCHOOL. I NEVER CARED ABOUT MONEY OR EDUCATION UNTIL RECENTLY. AS I GET OLDER I START THINKING ABOUT MY FUTURE AND HE DOESN'T. YOU SEE WE WERE RAISED DIFFERENTLY. I STARTED PAYING RENT AT 17 AND HIM AND HIS 2 BROTHERS ALL DO NOTHING. HIS PARENTS AREN'T RICH BUT THEY DON'T ASK FOR ANYTHING. ANYWAY AFTER A WHILE I GOT SICK OF PAYING FOR EVERYTHING AND DRIVING EVERYWHERE, AND AS THEY SAY "I LOST THAT LOVIN' FEELIN'". HE KNOWS HOW I FEEL BUT SAYS THINGS WILL GET BETTER. I JUST DON'T CARE ANYMORE! #1 AM I BEING SELFISH(HE SWARES HE LOVES ME AND ISN'T JUST USING ME BECAUSE HE NEEDS SOMEONE TO TAKE CARE OF HIM)? #2 HOW DO I GET OUT WHEN I FEEL SOOOOO GUILTY!!! HE SAYS HE'LL KILL HIMSELF IF I LEAVE.
Marauder Posted May 26, 2003 Posted May 26, 2003 I think most people want an EQUAL for a partner that is willing to grow emotionally and intellectually as they grow emotionally and intellectually. Please don’t feel guilty about your feelings. And if you do, guilt goes away so don’t sweat the negative vibes…it’s all a part of living life. On the subject of LIFE,… This is your LIFE and you better be selfish with your HAPPINESS because no one else is going to nurture that area like you can or would. Bottom line: If you are sure you don’t love him anymore, I believe you are morally obligated to release him. This will be TOUGH, but you can do it…
Author KATGRL Posted May 26, 2003 Author Posted May 26, 2003 THANKS FOR YOUR QUICK REPLY! WHAT YOU SAY MAKES A LOT OF SENSE, BUT FOR AS LONG AS I'VE FELT THIS WAY I CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO DO ANYTHING. I STILL TAKE HIS WANTS AND NEEDS BEFORE MY OWN NO MATTER HOW MUCH I TELL MYSELF NOT TO. I JUST DON'T TAKE CONFRONTATIONS VERY WELL. AND HOW DO I JUST DISAPPEAR IF HE WON'T LET ME JUST GO. I NEV'ER HAD TO DEAL WITH SOMEONE NOT WANTING TO BREAK UP EV'EN THOUGHT THE RELATIONSHIP STINKS. IT'S ALWAYS BEEN MUTUAL. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH ALL THE CRYING AND GUILT TRIPS WITHOUT GIVING IN. THANX AGAIN
NEONINK Posted May 26, 2003 Posted May 26, 2003 When you leave, it will be his lesson in life to learn. You are his teacher, don't feel guilty about that! Some of us have learned our lessons the hard way. If you feel you have been used, you will probably need to cease all contact with him after breaking up. He will miss taking... Good luck in deciding what you want, and try to use mixed case it's easier to read. Thanks...
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