iamlosthere Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months now and for the past 3 months he has stayed at my house everynight. This weekend out of no where he said he needs "time". I asked him if he found someone else and he said no that he just wants to think about things. I also asked him if he wants to come get his stuff from my house and he said no that he would just leave it there. We have both been married before and I am just wondering why he needs "time". I have learned that when a guy says he needs time it usualy means it is over but I asked him also if he was trying to let me down easy and he said no that was not what he was doing. He said those things on saturday and then came over on Sunday and we talked and kissed and he said he would call me and we have not talked since and it is now Wednesday? I need some advice?
carrotgirl Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months now and for the past 3 months he has stayed at my house everynight. This weekend out of no where he said he needs "time". I asked him if he found someone else and he said no that he just wants to think about things. I also asked him if he wants to come get his stuff from my house and he said no that he would just leave it there. We have both been married before and I am just wondering why he needs "time". I have learned that when a guy says he needs time it usualy means it is over but I asked him also if he was trying to let me down easy and he said no that was not what he was doing. He said those things on saturday and then came over on Sunday and we talked and kissed and he said he would call me and we have not talked since and it is now Wednesday? I need some advice? It's holiday season and that affects people differently and what with having been married before, your beau could be just having a little holiday season weirdness. My best advice is to be your normal, secure self and act like everything is A Okay because it probably is. So leave him alone, don't start whining or making demands. Just accept for now and reevaluate in two weeks. In the meantime, come do your venting here! We'll support you. Carrot
Author iamlosthere Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 carrotgirl, thanks for the positive outlook on things. All of my friends are in serious relationships and sometimes I feel like I can not talk to them about my relationships. I really hope you are right.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 i am in the same position as you are me and my boyfriend have been toguether for a little more than 1 year and yesterday we decided to go on a break he also said he wasnt going to go with another girl and that he just needs his time and that i have to trust him but that he wanted to be friends for acouple days.. i told him that there was no point of being friends because i didnt want him as a friend i didnt want a piece of him i wanted all of him..well i told him to do what he had to do..he said he was going to come back because he will want to come back to me he just needs time for himself...of course i have been very deppressed and my mom told me to understand him because hes going through a family problem right now and that hes stressed out that its not me but to just understand him...i believe its true because hes been acting weird with me like always mad and i start arguing with him telling him that he probably has another biitch..he says that he has no one just me its just that when hes mad im always there so he takes it out on me...well yesterday night when we were talking inside my car outside we kissed and hugged and kept looking at each other he was saying that he didnt even want to leave and wasnt letting go of the door ,when he closed the door he kept moving back slowly while he was looking at me..i didnt want to leave either i was so morosed at that moment.. but i guess we need this break so we can start fresh with no problems no arguments and more trust because i have to work on trusting him alot more and stop thinking wrong about him....i understand your positionand maybe you can relate to my love life....my friend has also been on breaks with her boyfriend and they always run back to each other ( i have to talk to her today to get some advice lol) well i hope this helped i feel your pain...
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