Rockpops Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 She left last monday and is staying with 'freinds' an hour away..says I need counseling for my jealousy....I havent accused her of cheating. But we did have some heated (on her end) discussions about her last bf. She gets really defensive and she says she just thinks we argue too much. To make things worse (i think) this guy is now 10 mins from where she is staying. She says she wants our marrige to work..but wont come home until I've 'fixed' my jealousy. Shes told all freinds and family..she's always at the 'freinds' house..doing exactly what she says she's doing...and says she would never cheat on me. Then she tells me..she doesnt see me being fixed for at least 30 days. Can a woman be that pissed that she'll leave for 2 weeks..(no phone call or anything.the first week)..and really want to be married??? Or am I just getting played like an idiot!!
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I think she could be cheating?!! You need solid evidence uncover the truth before you do anything drastic. If you can hire a P.I. get phone records from the time she was living there with you. It could be an emotional affair? I dont think that you should be married. She left only 4 months after your married? I dont think you should be married if she could walk out that early, all because you got issues with an ex boyfriend? Did you have the same issues about him when you guys were dating. When your married there's boundries about what kind of contact you make with the exes. If she doesnt understand boundries than what's the point of being married. Find out the truth before you take any actions. If she's spending all her time with her friends and not being your wife than what's the point of being married?
cj1988 Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I am with you, I think she may be cheating or about to ! If she leaves that fast over a few arguments, she did not want to be married in the first place....she is running baby, let her go !
Art_Critic Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 It is too hard to tell if she is cheating from what you have posted.. If you really think she is cheating then you should hire a PI.. I would think that the fact you have been married only 4 months and you are having heated arguments would be a warning sign that things are not right period.. cheating or not.. There are other things happening here other than cheating.. How long did you know her before you got married ? Do you have a jealousy issue ?.. I know how hard it is to live with someone who can't stop with the jealousy. If I were you and she was my wife then I would lay out an ultimatum... 4 months and all these problems means huge problems down the road unless it all stops.. the other thing you could suggest is marriage counseling..
WitchyLady Posted November 23, 2007 Posted November 23, 2007 Sound to me like maybe you got too jealous, too often. 4 months into a marriage you two should still be cooing like love doves. Sounds to me like she's scared of your jealousy and maybe she thinks there is a potential for violence. Why move out so abruptly to the safe harbor of a friend's house otherwise?
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