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[j12345uk]

i know this is going to drag but seriously need some help, i amseeing this guy have been for 13 months and what started as great making all these plans of marriage etc, things have got lost omewhere, now i no he is chatting with other girls etc online on phone etc and yeah i gave him benefiot of doubt of friends etc, but times he will not answr phone until next morning and everything i am seeing etc emails chats etc and messages it aint nice, but i love him and just think maybe it my fault i should goive him another chance when i ask him about this he snaps my head off! and hang up on me, tells me his aslepp of nights etc and online chatting to nothing but girls! durex packets but insists there his mates as he needed them.... but why would someone come round and say hey mate u got any durex i can borrow!! yeah right.

we dont live together and at a distance too, but he has promised since passing his driving test and taking his car back that he will come down to me but no sign since 3 wks so av ad to travel! i hve kids and there constantly wondering why he not coming, just everything i know if he missed me so much he would come but his mates coem first and have every excuse in book and his excuses wel.... my dauighter could think of better and she only 10! when i say look if your not interested in me plz say and put me outta my miser plz and he says oh dont be ***in stupid listen u! but there seems to be no interest at all what can i do to get interest back or make him thiknk.... as i do do everything for him cook when he is here clean laundry everything...

i love him so much i really do.... but like its one way traffic! would love to give him chance and make him realise in some way but how !! even though at this minute he is chatting elsewhere as he doesnt realise but he is chatting to me un beknown lol.... plz help much apprecaited

[michael d]

hi there.

sorry to hear about your situation. i came on here because of my heartbreak and am sad to see so many others suffering as well. all i can say is this. there is not much you can do to change a person's feelings except let them be and wait it out. but don't wait around and make yourself miserable dwelling on things, and don't blame yourself. just take some time, concentrate on your life, your kids, things you have and want to do. keep yourself busy and stay positive. if he calls or comes around, fine. if he doesn't, it's his choice. he is going to do what he is going to do. push him and call him and he will go farther away. realize that you will get through whatever happens. my 14 year long , love of my life wife has moved out and i am doing the same. wait and see. call your friends. do something fun. nothing may seem fun and this will not be quick or easy, but i'm sure we will get thru our pain and happiness awaits us.

hope this helps, good luck and we are here.

mike d