masky Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I have being dating this girl for seven months. now and deeply in love with her.Three months ago she moved out of state because of school.I have opened up to her but she is still having problem opening up to me. Four weeks ago she sent me an email saying that she doesnt think our relationship will last. when I questioned her she told me that she just doesnt know what she is feeling and was crying on the phone. four days later I called her phone and it was disconnected,which is completely out of character. She later called me after one week with a block number.I asked her what is going on and she stated that she is going through some stuff now and doesnt want to talk about it. After one week she was still not telling me what was going on, so I tried to end the relationship but she asked me to give her some time that she still love me and want to be with me. However the frustrating part of it is that for 3 weeks now she still calls me with a block number and I still dont have her new number and she is not opening up. Guys I will appreciate your help here, cuz this is painful for me.
Lovegod Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Time to cut her loose. First of all, she's now a long distance chick. Second, she's doing some weird 5hit and she's not being honest. Third, she's contemplating ending it anyway. From your post, I'm getting the overall feeling that she's met some other guy and isn't telling you. If you don't want your "heart" to be dragged through the mud, over sharp pointy rocks, and run over by a cement truck, then you'll be better off cutting her loose.
hindsfeet Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 valid point but chew on what you do before you do anything. consider what the out come is. you dont want any 'what if's' later if things dont work out and you do love her. its hard to move on without closure. i would try to meet her in person and just talk it straight out. tell her how you feel. be completely real. dont expect anything from her. if she responds great, if she doesnt, great. in love, you are responsible for only your actions. there is absolutely nothing you can do to make someone else love you. and your supposed to love without condition anyway. give her time if you want or not. your choice but chew on it first. sometimes in love because we've been hurt. maybe moving into something new is scary and she just needs to make sure before she moves forward. hope this helps some
Yosef Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Well, she does say to give her some time to think about it. I wouldn't recommend giving up, IMO. Be patient with her, it's all she asks of you. She's probably extremely stressed out, maybe a death in the family and doesn't want to talk about it because it's so painful to recall. That would be my best guess. Don't push her into talking, she needs time to relax. This will also give you time to contemplate on your next move, what you should do, AKA chewing on your ideas [ref. hindsfeet]. Of course, this is comming from an extremely patient person, so I wouldn't be surprised if you don't take the advice, it's your choice.
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