NEW2LOVE Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 i am 25 and have never experience REAL love ... its always been i think just the idea of love what does it feel like when you are in love ?? i mean really in love not just thinking you are in love ?
LoveLace Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I'm surprised there haven't a billion replies here!...i think you'd get a huge variety of answers... First of all "falling in love" is just the beginning of a new exciting relationship and this euphoric feeling usually fades after a while. But it usually consists of constantly thinking about the person, and you'll have butterflies in your stomach if with them or if thinking about them; you laugh a lot with them and have meaningful conversations with them; you feel very comfortable being around them. The feeling of their arms around you is melting....that's my definition... But once those things fade, people tend to think they have "fallen out" of love, which may be true, but it's easily mistaken for what is really just reaching another phase of love, which is maintaining a relationship that might not have all the euphoria anymore...that's probably a whole other thread...anyone wanna take one for the team?
Lovegod Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 It doesn't really feel like anything. "Love" isn't a feeling, but rather a combination of feelings, understandings, and interactions. Society has led you to believe that "love" is a feeling. Society is usually full of crap.
LoveLace Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 I agree...the word "love" is way to overrated and glamourized by society, the media in particular, but really love can only be defined on an individual's terms, as far I'm concerned. I also agree it's not a term all by itself, and it's a variety of emotions in one.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Love is a feeling, yes. But it's more than just that. You get that butterflies-in-you-stomach sort of feeling when you hear the object of your affection's voice (or are near him). But it's also about commitment and choice. You choose to love someone and therefore you control how you behave and what you say. Love also includes acceptance and a sort of give-and-take partnership. I could go on and on about this...there are MANY facets of love. It is also an individual thing...different people define it differently.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 i can say that i have fallen in love 2 times...the rest before that i thought i was in love i wanted to say i love you and mean it but it didnt feel right if i said it... when i got into a relationship with my ex i kept telling myself "dont say i love you until you feel it"...well he said it first but of course didnt mean it he turned out to be a biitch..he hurt me so bad he was my first.. i lost it to him about 4 months close to 5 since our break up, i loved him, that was 2 years ago...i did so much for him knowing that he didnt feel the same way for me..i cried for 4 months str8 it hurt so bad..he made me feel butterflies in my stomach and when i saw him (we had a long distance relationship) i felt like i fell in love with him again and kept thinking about him.. every one told me i looked so preety because i was always so smiley and happy and jumpy..but all of that love that i had for him turned into hatred..i know i loved him but everything he put me through made me hate him so much to the pont where when he calls i just dont feel like picking up and if accidentally pick up i get annoyed and lie and tell him i have to go do something or my mom is calling lol... after him i had more bfs.. but nothing serious...until 1 year ago from now...this was the guy i had never thought i was going to end up with lol...he was my first crush when i came to the united states in 3rd grade..we used to be in the same class room sit in the same table and used to flirt alot lol....well i moved in the middle of 4th grade and then saw him again when i got to high school in 9th grade..i was surprised and got butterflies because i had never thought i was going to see him again lol...i used to have his twin brother in my science class and him and me started talking that year on the phone but then stopped because he was too shy to come talk to me in person..then the next year he tried talking to me again but he had dropped out when we were about to...the next year was when we finnaly were getting somewhere we went out to the movies skipped a couple times and just pecked one time lol...but he would always say he wanted to ask me out but didnt do it..it was like he was shy or something...well i got tired of that and i wasnt sure if i liked him like that..and i started looking at my "3rd grade crush" his twin brother more closely...he made me feel weird..and so out of nowhere me and him started talking..we started liking each other but he was holding back in asking me out because his brother still had feelings for me...but after a while we finally started going out and his brother started hating me and talking shyt to him about me, i guess so he would leave me and im guessing he was mad because i went for his brother and not him...it was his fault anyways.... well..we have been through so much in only 1 year..omg..so much drama..and we still stayed toguether...every time i see him i get these monster butterflies and i get so nervous when i am about to talk to him on the phone or about to see him and cheesing like shyt...i get so nervous lol...i would do anything for him and have i dont even look at other guys ..to me hes the only one that i see every other guy is invisible..its like i see through them and only see him...i care for him so much ...he has been the only guy i have called baby lol he has been the one i have lasted the longest with and want to last with for a really long time...i cant stay mad at him for a long time..if i do i cant stop thinking about him and wondering if hes mad at me too.. i just hope he comes back sooner so i can show him more of that love i have for him... i dont know i guess once you feel like you cant be with out that person and you want to be with them at every minute of your time and dont get bored of seeing them thats when you have fallen in love..
Star Gazer Posted November 27, 2007 Posted November 27, 2007 But it's also about commitment and choice. You choose to love someone and therefore you control how you behave and what you say. I totally agree. Unlike many, I believe we can make a conscious decision every day to love our SO.
tanbark813 Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 It's kind of like: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=st8E9L2Uqmk
EricOnTheWeb Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 I fell in love once, and it was love, and not lust. Mine happened online with a cool girl who is married, but whatever. She just was so facinating to me, I never felt the feelings before and it drove me nuts. We could never meet(cause she was married) and that was hard. She is part of why I am on such forums. For over two years, and even now, I think about her daily, she captured my heart in every ,way ,shape ,and form.. I never fell in love before, and I did not know what I was feeling, all I knew is that I craved so much to meet this girl in person, it was tough. When we were friends, it was checking my email as soon as I get home to see if she wrote to me.. every couple of hours it was checking email to see if she was there. On the computer her Messenger thing would pop up and I would get a tingle and sudden nervousness, cause she was there, and she knew I was there. We talked on the phone once, and I sent her some gifts, and I wanted to meet her so badly.. plus with my loneliness I became obsessive and she became nervous. All I know is that I felt love for the first time, in the worst time and place... it was bad for me, and sent me in a downward spiral, I became depressed over it as we parted ways. We left on extremely bad terms.. I wish she could of understood my feelings. and left on good terms. You'll see me write on how online relationships suck... this is the reason why..and girls that I meet online(including here) I tend to push away... I don't want/can't fall in love online again... I can't handle it. I felt love and it was not a good expierience for me... I really miss her as an online friend though *sigh*
Haner Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 I fell in love once, and it was love, and not lust. Mine happened online with a cool girl who is married, but whatever. She just was so facinating to me, I never felt the feelings before and it drove me nuts. We could never meet(cause she was married) and that was hard. She is part of why I am on such forums. For over two years, and even now, I think about her daily, she captured my heart in every ,way ,shape ,and form.. I never fell in love before, and I did not know what I was feeling, all I knew is that I craved so much to meet this girl in person, it was tough. When we were friends, it was checking my email as soon as I get home to see if she wrote to me.. every couple of hours it was checking email to see if she was there. On the computer her Messenger thing would pop up and I would get a tingle and sudden nervousness, cause she was there, and she knew I was there. We talked on the phone once, and I sent her some gifts, and I wanted to meet her so badly.. plus with my loneliness I became obsessive and she became nervous. All I know is that I felt love for the first time, in the worst time and place... it was bad for me, and sent me in a downward spiral, I became depressed over it as we parted ways. We left on extremely bad terms.. I wish she could of understood my feelings. and left on good terms. You'll see me write on how online relationships suck... this is the reason why..and girls that I meet online(including here) I tend to push away... I don't want/can't fall in love online again... I can't handle it. I felt love and it was not a good expierience for me... I really miss her as an online friend though *sigh* Sorry to break it to you pal, that ain't love, it's an obsessive crush. The love of ones SO is similar to the love of ones child. You develop this familial bond with your SO, as if you're related by blood and more. But unlike other familial relationships, only with your SO are you able to create new blood relations. If you don't have that bond, you aren't in love, period.
spookie Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 The love of ones SO is similar to the love of ones child. You develop this familial bond with your SO, as if you're related by blood and more. But unlike other familial relationships, only with your SO are you able to create new blood relations. If you don't have that bond, you aren't in love, period. Sometimes I think this too. That's how I felt (feel) about my most recent ex. I think my love for him was defined in my head with two characteristics: I badly wanted his babies, and I knew I would do whatever it took to be with him. Physically near. So I could keep loving. But I have another ex that I am positive I loved and it was different. With him, I felt I knew who I was, and exactly who I wanted to be. (With the ex from above, I had no idea about anything except for the fact that I loved him.) He brought out the best in me and that's why I clung; it was as important as breathing to have his influence. I think the reason love is so special and confusing is that it's different with every person that you fall in love with. That's why it's so hard to get over: you think you'll never love again like that (because you won't). But you will, again, in another fashion no less magical.
Lovegod Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 For over two years, and even now, I think about her daily, she captured my heart in every ,way ,shape ,and form.. I never fell in love before, and I did not know what I was feeling, all I knew is that I craved so much to meet this girl in person, it was tough. When we were friends, it was checking my email as soon as I get home to see if she wrote to me.. every couple of hours it was checking email to see if she was there. On the computer her Messenger thing would pop up and I would get a tingle and sudden nervousness, cause she was there, and she knew I was there Wow, now I have butterflies in MY stomach
Haner Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Wow, now I have butterflies in MY stomach Butterflies and nervous tingles aren't love. A stalker who's about to get caught feels the same sensations. The only reason you have them is because the love interest is still a complete stranger, and you aren't quite convinced they like you or even appreciate your presence and actions.
Lovegod Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Butterflies and nervous tingles aren't love. Agreed. They just make you wanna throw up, hence the puke smiley
LoveLace Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Going along with Spookie, I agree there are different types of love. I think I know what 17 year-old love feels like because that's when I was actually engaged (ugh!!) we were very much in love with each other. But the only love I've known since then is the 1-sided kind, so I'm 30 years old and can't say I know what "in love" feels like.
Timberlane Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 When the moth finds the flame it comes to know Love's name.
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