Dante42 Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 But I don't mind all that much:D We broke up a few months ago and I hoped we would stay friends but now it seems the only time she wants to spend time is to have sex. She's one of those wonderful women who have difficulty going without for more than a few weeks and until she gets a new bf it seems it's my job to slake her lust. She's coming over tomorrow (but only for a couple of hours) and I wanted to have dinner with her and maybe catch a movie and generally hang out but she always says she's too busy and "we never have anything to talk about anyway". When I call her she doesn't sound very interested in talking so I guess the friends thing isn't really gonna happen. Makes me a little sad. Apart from the fact she drove me crazy, we always had stuff to do together when we were together. So now the only time I get to spend time with her is when she's got that itch she needs me to scratch. Don't get me wrong, she is totally hot and I love doing the horizontal mambo with her, but I miss the long conversations, walks and stuff. And of course when she does find someone new, even that little contact will cease. Maybe I'm too sentimental.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 But I don't mind all that much:D We broke up a few months ago and I hoped we would stay friends but now it seems the only time she wants to spend time is to have sex. She's one of those wonderful women who have difficulty going without for more than a few weeks and until she gets a new bf it seems it's my job to slake her lust. She's coming over tomorrow (but only for a couple of hours) and I wanted to have dinner with her and maybe catch a movie and generally hang out but she always says she's too busy and "we never have anything to talk about anyway". When I call her she doesn't sound very interested in talking so I guess the friends thing isn't really gonna happen. Makes me a little sad. Apart from the fact she drove me crazy, we always had stuff to do together when we were together. So now the only time I get to spend time with her is when she's got that itch she needs me to scratch. Don't get me wrong, she is totally hot and I love doing the horizontal mambo with her, but I miss the long conversations, walks and stuff. And of course when she does find someone new, even that little contact will cease. Maybe I'm too sentimental. You know I had that problem too, there was alot of women that broke my heart and when the last one did it, I snapped. There came a day when she was like I'll make it up to you. and everything and we had sex. I told her to put up or shut up. I basically used her and my heart was not there. That's what you need to do. Take your heart out of the situation. And find someone else to be with emotionally and when the time is right, drop the bomb and tell her I found someone else, no more sex, goodbye. I mean if all she values you is just for sex why do you tolerate it?
Author Dante42 Posted November 21, 2007 Author Posted November 21, 2007 I mean if all she values you is just for sex why do you tolerate it? Well the sex is fabulous and I do have a great time might have something to do with it. I'm not overly upset, just a teeny bit sad that the friends thing is so rare after breaking up.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 Well the sex is fabulous and I do have a great time might have something to do with it. I'm not overly upset, just a teeny bit sad that the friends thing is so rare after breaking up. I know but I could never be friends with a woman who maliciously broke my heart. That's why you take the heart out of the equation. I mean the sex is good no doubt, keep it going. While you at it. Go the distance I mean why have just vaginal sex, have oral and anal! If it's just sex, leave it that way. Trust me when you get a real girlfriend who emotionally there and physically your x/jumpoff is gonna cry about it, saying she misses you and wants you back, dont fall for it!
Trialbyfire Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 The FWB thing is a misnomer. You're not really friends with someone you just want diddle. There's no real respect involved with it. If you want to be friends, the first step is to stop having sex and start treating each other as people. If you're unwilling to give up the sex with no respect or emotion, you will never be real friends.
Lovegod Posted November 21, 2007 Posted November 21, 2007 find someone else to be with emotionally and when the time is right, drop the bomb and tell her I found someone else, no more sex, goodbye. Agreed. If you cannot find one woman to fulfill all your needs, find multiple women to fulfill certain needs. This one's great for sex. Find another one who is great for all that mushy stuff, but is lousy in bed. A woman who can fulfill all your needs is rare. Once you find her, you can get rid of all the other ones.
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 Agreed. If you cannot find one woman to fulfill all your needs, find multiple women to fulfill certain needs. This one's great for sex. Find another one who is great for all that mushy stuff, but is lousy in bed. A woman who can fulfill all your needs is rare. Once you find her, you can get rid of all the other ones. It is what it is. If I was you I'd just lay pipe and keep your heart chained up you see she isnt the one. Sex is sex so just treat her like the jumpoff she is. Period.
Author Dante42 Posted November 22, 2007 Author Posted November 22, 2007 I know but I could never be friends with a woman who maliciously broke my heart.! Well she didn't break my heart. The break up was kind of by mutual agreement. I believe in being honest and told her that I didn't know if or when I would be ready to commit and eventually she decided she couldn't wait that long. Which was fair enough. Aspects of her I loved but other aspects I found impossible to live with. Still care about her though That's why you take the heart out of the equation. I can't have sex without feelings. If I don't care for the person then I would rather masturbate. But I can have feelings for someone without going overboard. I mean the sex is good no doubt, keep it going. While you at it. Go the distance I mean why have just vaginal sex, have oral and anal!! Of course! She loves it in any orifice. Trust me when you get a real girlfriend who emotionally there and physically your x/jumpoff is gonna cry about it, saying she misses you and wants you back, dont fall for it! Most likely she will find a new partner before I do. She is totally hot and a lot younger than me and I'm not really looking. I enjoy my solitude and prefer to have some space between relationships. I don't actually want to be with her on a permanent basis as I don't think we are compatible to live together. I would be happy to have her as a gf indefinitely but of course that's not what she is looking for and I respect that. Agreed. If you cannot find one woman to fulfill all your needs, find multiple women to fulfill certain needs. This one's great for sex. Find another one who is great for all that mushy stuff, but is lousy in bed. A woman who can fulfill all your needs is rare. Once you find her, you can get rid of all the other ones. I'm totally into sex but for me, it involves so much more than attractive body parts. While the body bits are very important, what really makes a woman sexy to me is her mind. A sexy mind in tune with my own rings my bells like no model ever could. A woman "great for sex" in my book would also be one that gives me emotionally what I need so the mushy stuff would have to be part of it. I have found the only women who are "lousy in bed" are those who don't seem to enjoy sex or at least don't want to show they do. I have no romantic interest in women who don't love sex as much as I do. Also, two aspects in myself make this unworkable for me. 1. I don't cheat so would have to be honest with them about my other concurrent partners which would rather put most women off. 2. I prefer to concentrate my energies on one woman at a time. I still dream of finding that all-in-one woman but if she never crosses my path, well I've certainly enjoyed the search!
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 22, 2007 Posted November 22, 2007 Well she didn't break my heart. The break up was kind of by mutual agreement. I believe in being honest and told her that I didn't know if or when I would be ready to commit and eventually she decided she couldn't wait that long. Which was fair enough. Aspects of her I loved but other aspects I found impossible to live with. Still care about her though I can't have sex without feelings. If I don't care for the person then I would rather masturbate. But I can have feelings for someone without going overboard. Of course! She loves it in any orifice. Most likely she will find a new partner before I do. She is totally hot and a lot younger than me and I'm not really looking. I enjoy my solitude and prefer to have some space between relationships. I don't actually want to be with her on a permanent basis as I don't think we are compatible to live together. I would be happy to have her as a gf indefinitely but of course that's not what she is looking for and I respect that. I'm totally into sex but for me, it involves so much more than attractive body parts. While the body bits are very important, what really makes a woman sexy to me is her mind. A sexy mind in tune with my own rings my bells like no model ever could. A woman "great for sex" in my book would also be one that gives me emotionally what I need so the mushy stuff would have to be part of it. I have found the only women who are "lousy in bed" are those who don't seem to enjoy sex or at least don't want to show they do. I have no romantic interest in women who don't love sex as much as I do. Also, two aspects in myself make this unworkable for me. 1. I don't cheat so would have to be honest with them about my other concurrent partners which would rather put most women off. 2. I prefer to concentrate my energies on one woman at a time. I still dream of finding that all-in-one woman but if she never crosses my path, well I've certainly enjoyed the search! She sounds like a great woman. So you didnt want to get married and got cold feet and now she's just being a FWB with you huh? I thought you broke up on some I want to see other people, circumstances have changed. Maybe this is the best thing for you guys. And it's nice to know she takes it in all orifices. Giggiddy Giggiddy Goo! Alright!
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